Laura from Miami shares that she has been with her husband for 18 years, married for 6, and feels they have grown apart, leaving her torn between staying with a man she considers great and not losing herself. Sage helps her voice her loneliness and rejection as clear, loving requests, while Tony introduces the six human needs framework to evaluate the relationship. Together they guide Laura toward a 60-90 day period of intentionally loving her husband in the way he best receives love, so she can make a clearer, regret-free decision about staying or leaving.
Andrew Huberman explains the biology and psychology of social bonding, covering neural circuits, neurochemicals, and hormones that govern how we form and maintain relationships. He describes social homeostasis circuits involving structures like the ACC, amygdala, hypothalamus, and dorsal raphe nucleus, and discusses how introversion and extroversion may relate to dopamine responses to social interaction. He also explores physiological synchrony, early caregiver-infant attachment, emotional versus cognitive empathy, the role of oxytocin, and what happens in the nervous system during breakups.
Jay Shetty explores why breakups can feel so difficult to move on from, connecting the pain of missing an ex to brain chemistry, identity, and emotional needs rather than to the person themselves. He debunks common myths about time and closure, reframes what we actually miss in a relationship, and offers specific practices to stop romanticizing the past, rebuild structure, and focus on self-worth and personal growth. He closes by normalizing setbacks in healing and encouraging listeners to see heartbreak as a meaningful chapter that can humanize and strengthen them rather than define them.
Jay Shetty curates a masterclass-style episode on modern dating featuring insights from Vanessa Van Edwards, Jillian Turecki, Sadia Khan, and Laurie Gottlieb. The guests explain how subtle body language and vocal cues signal availability, why impatience and fear of rejection sabotage dating, and how self-esteem shapes who we entertain rather than who we attract. They emphasize honesty about needs, resisting future-tripping, and focusing on present behavior and conflict repair to build relationships that are healthy and sustainable.
The episode first traces how marriage has evolved from an economic and political alliance into a love-based, self-expressive partnership, and explores how rising expectations can either suffocate relationships or, when met, produce unprecedented fulfillment. Psychologist Eli Finkel discusses his "all-or-nothing" model of marriage and offers practical strategies to align expectations with the time and energy couples actually invest. In the second half, psychologist Jonathan Adler examines how the stories we tell about our lives-especially redemption and contamination narratives-shape our well-being, illustrated through powerful listener stories about trauma, illness, grief, and resilience.
Andrew Huberman interviews evolutionary psychologist David Buss about how Darwin's theory of sexual selection explains human mate choice and the different criteria men and women use for short-term versus long-term relationships. They discuss universal and sex-differentiated mate preferences, deception in dating, jealousy and mate guarding, dark triad personalities, stalking, attachment styles, and how people assess mate value in themselves and others. Buss also describes his major books on human mating and sexual conflict.
Jay Shetty explores how to distinguish between real and fake friendships by examining subtle patterns such as how people respond to your boundaries, whether they keep score, how they react to your success, and whether they gossip about others. Drawing on attachment theory, concepts from the Bhagavad Gita, and psychological research, he outlines behavior-based signs instead of labeling people as entirely "fake" or "real." He closes by emphasizing that healthy friendships require mutual understanding, honest feedback, patience, and shared values, not just expectations of others.