Divorce lawyer and author James Sexton shares insights from 25 years of facilitating the end of marriages about what actually destroys relationships and what helps them last. He argues that disconnection and not feeling seen, rather than cheating or money alone, are the primary marriage killers, and emphasizes the importance of small daily gestures, honest communication, and preventive "maintenance" conversations. The discussion also covers prenups as a mutual safety tool, the impact of divorce and conflict on children, gendered patterns around infidelity and divorce initiation, and how ego and unexamined stories sabotage both marriages and breakups.
Jay Shetty and Radhi Devlikhia discuss why so many men feel lonely, drawing on recent research about a "friendship recession" and their own personal experiences. They explore how male friendships are often structured around activities rather than emotional sharing, the stigma men face when being vulnerable, and how online narratives about masculinity can discourage openness. They offer practical ideas for building deeper connections, reframing vulnerability as a strength, and intentionally cultivating a small circle of trusted friends.
Andrew Huberman interviews evolutionary psychologist David Buss about how Darwin's theory of sexual selection explains human mate choice and the different criteria men and women use for short-term versus long-term relationships. They discuss universal and sex-differentiated mate preferences, deception in dating, jealousy and mate guarding, dark triad personalities, stalking, attachment styles, and how people assess mate value in themselves and others. Buss also describes his major books on human mating and sexual conflict.