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The Ramsey Show

Your Financial Chaos Ends Today

Published October 13, 2025
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About This Episode

Hosts George Campbell and Dr. John Deloney take live calls from listeners navigating complex financial and relational situations, from family members stealing student loans to deciding whether to finance cars, sell rental properties, or downsize homes. They emphasize paying cash, prioritizing peace over complicated financial arbitrage, facing hard family conversations, and putting basic needs first during crises like job loss, medical emergencies, and government shutdowns. Several callers share intense life transitions, including divorce, small-business struggles, and the sudden death of a spouse, and receive step-by-step guidance on stabilizing their finances and planning the next chapter.

Topics Covered

Debt payoff Snowball method Student loans Mortgage Car loans Government shutdown Entrepreneurship Retirement savings Caregiving Relationships

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Quick Takeaways

  • When family members control or misuse your accounts and debt, you may need to freeze credit, pull full reports, and treat it as potential fraud or identity theft, even if it's a parent.
  • The "ROI of peace"-owning things outright and avoiding payments-is often more valuable than squeezing out a small interest-rate spread by borrowing and investing the difference.
  • In the debt snowball, when several balances are similar, attacking the one with the largest monthly payment first can maximize freed-up cash and momentum.
  • Adult children who live at home but don't consistently contribute can unintentionally trap parents financially and emotionally; clear expectations, deadlines, and sometimes eviction are necessary for everyone to grow.
  • Business owners shouldn't pay themselves from a new venture until it consistently covers all operating costs; in the meantime, outside income and aggressive marketing are essential.
  • Selling a rental property to create margin and simplify life can be wiser than draining or borrowing against retirement accounts, especially during health or caregiving crises.
  • During events like government shutdowns, families should pause extra debt payments, focus on the four walls (food, utilities, housing, transportation), and negotiate with creditors instead of taking new loans.
  • Paying off a house early shifts the focus from survival to purpose-allowing couples to dream, give more, invest more, and design how they want their life and home to feel.
  • Trying to enforce perfect "justice" with ex-spouses or relatives through court often costs more money and peace than it's worth; sometimes the best financial decision is to pay and move on.
  • Grief and financial chaos after a spouse's death demand a slow, methodical approach: stabilize essentials, inventory all debts and assets, and get trusted help before making big decisions.

Podcast Notes

Show introduction and format

Hosts and call-in structure

George Campbell and Dr. John Deloney introduce themselves and the show[0:25]
• They broadcast from the Ramsey Network Fairwinds Credit Union studio and invite listeners to call in for live help with money and life issues
Emphasis on learning from other callers[0:25]
• George notes that by calling in, listeners can help others in similar situations who are listening

Caller Eden: Future mother-in-law misusing student loans and control of finances

Background on fiancé's accounts and student loans

Fiancée's student loans going to mother's checking account[1:31]
• Eden explains that his fiancée transferred from a university to a community college to finish nursing
• Her student loan refunds have been deposited into her mother's checking account with the stated intent that mom would move them into the fiancée's savings
Custodial savings account controlled by mom[1:38]
• In the fiancée's savings account, she is only a signer while her mother is the custodian and controls access, including permission for her daughter just to see the balance
Past attempts to protect money from mom[2:40]
• They previously moved the fiancée's funds from an older checking account because mom had been "taking little amounts" from it
• George clarifies the account was actually mom's account with the daughter attached, meaning mom was withdrawing from her own account

Concerns about theft and loan liability

Fiancée is on the hook for loans she never saw[2:55]
• George questions whether any of the loan money even went toward tuition and notes the fiancée will be responsible for repayment regardless
Unknown whether loans have actually paid the schools[2:55]
• Eden says they know university amounts were paid and mentions Missouri's A+ program that covers community college tuition in exchange for community service hours
• They do not know if more recent loans went to the community college or were cashed out elsewhere, and mom becomes evasive when asked for balances

Host advice: Take control and investigate

Freeze credit and pull complete credit report[3:59]
• George advises the fiancée to put a freeze on her credit so no one can borrow more money using her identity
• She should also pull her full credit report to see all loans and any other accounts that might have been opened, because such behavior rarely occurs in isolation
Contact schools directly for records[4:21]
• They need to contact the university and community college to confirm balances, past-due bills, and whether loan funds were actually applied to tuition
• George suggests requesting receipts and acting as their own "forensic accountant" to reconstruct what was owed, what was paid, and how much was borrowed

Relational red flags and boundaries before marriage

Mother's actions could be identity theft or fraud[4:43]
• George states mom has essentially committed identity theft and fraud if she used loan funds for herself while loans are in her daughter's name
Christmas and family holidays may inevitably change[5:01]
• John bluntly tells Eden that if his future mother-in-law is willing to steal from her daughter, normal holiday relationships are already fundamentally altered
Eden's limited role as fiancé[5:09]
• John stresses that Eden himself can do nothing directly; the fiancée must take the reins because this is her life and her legal situation
• He warns that Eden is using "we" a lot despite them not being married yet, and that he shouldn't drag her through a "Law and Order episode" where he is the lead
Red flag about fiancée's willingness to confront mom[5:48]
• John says if she won't stand up to a mom who is stealing from her, he will deal with similar boundary issues with kids, house, and other decisions for the rest of his life
• He calls it a huge red flag and suggests not getting married until there is a permanent solution to this situation
Conversation strategy with mom and law enforcement as last resort[6:06]
• George outlines that if there's a gap between what was borrowed and what schools received, they can either get mom to pay the gap or consider calling the local sheriff's non-emergency line to report theft
• They urge Eden not to let emotion overwhelm the process: gather the numbers, confirm balances, and then act based on reality
Support role and communication tone[8:07]
• John tells Eden to be his fiancée's "chief supporter" but not the hero who storms in; she must lead the conversation with her parents
• He cautions Eden never to talk badly about her mom but instead talk positively about his fiancée, while still insisting on hard conversations and boundaries

Caller Kevin: Paying cash vs. financing a used SUV

Kevin's financial situation and car plans

Income, net worth, and savings[11:04]
• Kevin and his wife have a net worth of about $700,000 (including home equity and mortgage) and household income of about $200,000
• They have roughly $75,000 in savings, including their vehicle fund and an emergency/operating buffer
Car purchase parameters[10:53]
• Their budget is $30,000-$40,000 for a larger vehicle like a Chevy Tahoe or similar for their growing family
• They are looking at certified pre-owned vehicles and have no other debt besides their mortgage

Question: Why pay cash if investment returns beat loan APR?

Kevin's rationale for considering a loan[10:53]
• He is seeing used car APRs in the 3-4% range and believes they could earn more than that in a money market or high-yield savings account
• He views the interest rate spread as a small but real stepping stone toward millionaire and debt-free status

Host response: Values, peace, and risk vs. small arbitrage

Ramsey value: not owing anyone anything[11:53]
• George explains that he and John prioritize not owing people money, even if they could make a small spread by borrowing at a low rate and saving at a slightly higher rate
Market realities may not match Kevin's assumptions[13:01]
• George questions whether Kevin can truly get 5% in a savings account long-term and notes that used-car loan rates may be higher than new-car rates, making the spread smaller or negative
• He also warns dealers may "hose" him in other ways when they know he is financing
Risk of being underwater on a financed car[14:05]
• George points out that many callers are $5,000-$15,000 underwater on vehicles; if Kevin finances, he could owe more than the car is worth if he needs to sell in a couple of years
• A paid-for car can always be sold without a loan deficiency, making it more flexible in emergencies
Negotiating power with cash[14:27]
• George shares experiences of negotiating better deals with cash, including cases where sales staff sometimes ask him to briefly finance to earn their own bonuses, then he can pay it off

John's "ROI of peace" argument

Prioritizing peace over mathematical optimization[15:29]
• John says the new ROI he and his wife use is peace, not just interest-rate spread, and that he will forgo a potential 2% arbitrage to sleep better at night
• He notes they live in a world of finite energy and wants fewer mental games about money, preferring simplicity: "That's my car, I own it"
Signing a promissory note effectively gives away your cash[18:08]
• John argues that once Kevin signs a loan, the money in his account is essentially the lender's; he's just paying extra for the privilege of holding it
• They discuss how in a downturn, if repossessions rise and cars sell at auction, lenders can sue for the difference, leaving borrowers without a car and still owing money
Thinking in 10-year decisions and margin[19:18]
• George prefers to make 10-year decisions and highlights that having no payment makes future choices like one spouse staying home much easier
• They encourage Kevin to leverage his strong financial position and simply write a check, instead of chasing small arbitrage gains that distract from bigger wealth-building priorities

Caller Jonathan: IRS debt from previous marriage and weighing court vs. peace

Background on IRS debt from prior marriage

Missing business documents and tax liability[22:12]
• Jonathan's ex-wife never returned business documents he requested during their court case, complicating tax filings for two years
• They owe $23,000 for those two years, and in court she agreed to pay half
Ex-wife's failed innocent spouse relief and non-payment[23:14]
• She filed for innocent spouse relief with the IRS, but it was denied because she knew what she was signing
• Almost three years later she still hasn't paid her half, leaving Jonathan on the hook

Jonathan's new life and progress on debt

Current relationship and debt payoff[22:40]
• Jonathan is engaged and his fiancée introduced him to Ramsey principles, helping him transform his finances
• He was $120,000 in debt before, and has paid off $77,362 so far
Ability to pay IRS now[24:05]
• He has been working hard and expects upcoming checks to allow him to pay off the IRS and remaining debts

Decision: pursue ex-wife in court or pay and move on

Legal options and cost estimates[24:05]
• To enforce the divorce judgment, he would likely need to file a motion for contempt, seek a money judgment, and get the judge to force payment
• His last legal experience cost $45,000, so even a smaller action could be several thousand dollars in attorney fees
Peace vs. justice and ego[25:57]
• John frames the dilemma as a tension between peace and justice/ego; Jonathan is right that she should pay, but the cost to enforce that right may be high
• He challenges Jonathan to calculate the real cost of peace-writing the check, being done, and never seeing his ex-wife in court again
Suggested compromise approach[26:56]
• George suggests Jonathan could pay the IRS now to stop penalties and stress, then, if he wants closure, still pursue her later for reimbursement

Additional collection debt with questionable validation

Unclear smaller judgment[28:12]
• Jonathan mentions a separate $1,268 debt that went to court; the creditor only provided a generic invoice and could not show where or when the charge occurred
• He suspects it may stem from his ex having signing authority on his cards during the marriage
Larger debt with same creditor and potential settlement[28:59]
• He has another $9,866 debt with the same creditor that he plans to pay off with his next big job payment
• John suggests calling the creditor and offering a lump sum (e.g., $10,000) to settle all debts and have them marked paid in full

Big-picture advice: Choose peace and freedom

Avoid chasing "justice" at high cost[29:58]
• John says he is the type who would walk away from some money to have peace, and urges Jonathan not to spend $50,000 trying to force her to pay $11,000
Focus on finishing debt payoff[30:42]
• He reminds Jonathan he is close to being free and suggests prioritizing bailing himself out of financial "jail" over negotiating a shorter sentence via litigation

Caller Aubrey: New to Baby Steps after divorce, snowball ordering, and house/ divorce complications

Aubrey's recent divorce and motivation to change

Starting Ramsey plan after 20-year marriage ended[34:34]
• Aubrey's 20-year marriage ended, and she has three kids: 19-year-old twins and a 16-year-old
• She began the plan on October 1, completed Baby Step 1, is on Baby Step 2, and has already picked up a side gig
Involving her kids in the process[34:36]
• She sat her older kids down, had them watch the Baby Steps intro with her, and asked them to hold her accountable as she pursues change
• She explained her side gig and time away so they would understand the temporary sacrifices being made for their future

Question on debt snowball when balances are close

Similar balances with different interest rates and payments[36:32]
• Aubrey read in Total Money Makeover about a caveat when debts are very close in size and wonders if interest rate should influence the order
• Three of her debts are within $50-$100 of each other but have different interest rates and payment amounts
Host recommendation: target the one with the biggest payment[36:50]
• George says when balances are very close, he likes to hit whichever debt has the largest minimum payment to free up the biggest chunk of cash for the next debt
• He emphasizes that overall interest differences will be small because the debts will be cleared quickly with focused intensity
Snowball vs. avalanche[37:18]
• George contrasts the snowball (smallest balance first) with the avalanche (highest interest first), noting that very few people actually stick with the avalanche because it is math-driven and ignores psychology
• They prefer the snowball because early wins create momentum and behavior change, which is more important than minor interest savings

Aubrey's numbers and budget process

Total debt and income[37:34]
• She has about $80,000 in non-mortgage debt and earns around $94,000 per year with bonuses, plus a new side gig starting at about $400/month as a nurse caring for a patient
Using the EveryDollar budget and finding margin[38:38]
• Aubrey upgraded to the premium budgeting app so she can track transactions and understand actual spending categories like groceries and gas
• She's currently throwing about $800 extra at debt but expects to find more margin as she refines the budget over several months
• George assures her it often takes about three months to fully dial in a realistic budget

Question about affording the house and divorce logistics

Uncertain if she can afford to keep the house[39:34]
• John asks bluntly if she can afford the house; she responds "no" but explains the divorce is not finalized and that complicates selling it
House sale stalled by ex-husband and kids' emotions[40:00]
• They had the house on the market for nine months with no offers; interest rate changes have recently increased interest from buyers
• Her ex-husband hasn't signed anything; they paused the process because their kids were struggling emotionally with too many changes at once
Legal push to finalize divorce and sale[41:18]
• John warns that continuing to delay is like repeatedly stopping while pulling a Band-Aid, prolonging pain and tension in the home
• He suggests hiring a strong attorney who will push to get the divorce finalized and the house sale terms clarified, possibly using future equity to cover legal fees
Equity and potential attorney arrangement[42:14]
• Aubrey estimates about $60,000 of equity in the home and had not considered that an attorney might accept payment from sale proceeds

Emotional encouragement and next steps

Affirmation of her leadership with her kids[34:36]
• John compares her to someone holding a flashlight after a storm, leading her kids through the dark by owning her part and charting a new course
Resource offered[42:54]
• They send her John's book "Building a Non-Anxious Life" to use as a roadmap for her and her kids moving forward

Caller Allison and Michael: New optometry practice and when to pay themselves

Family and business background

Growing family and new small-town practice[45:18]
• Allison and Michael recently had their third baby and describe their home as "joyful chaos"
• They opened a new optometry practice a few months ago in a small town that is underserved for eye care
Prior work with Michael's father and decision not to take over[44:36]
• Michael worked with his 75-year-old father for five years and had the chance to take over that established practice
• They chose not to, citing spiritual concerns and limited fruitfulness in that town, even though it looked like an "easy" opportunity to others

Current workload and income mix

Split time between new practice and employment elsewhere[45:42]
• The new practice is open only a couple of days per week while Michael works 3.5 days per week for another eye doctor in a different town to cover personal bills
• Allison works full-time with him at their practice on Fridays and Saturdays while grandparents help with childcare

Debt and business overhead

Startup loan from Michael's father[46:01]
• They borrowed $200,000 at 2% interest from his father, who has allowed them to temporarily pause payments on that loan
Baseline monthly business expenses[49:19]
• Michael calculates that it takes about $9,400 per month to keep the practice afloat, covering mortgage and equipment loans but not paying themselves any salary
• The practice is starting to generate more patients and may break even around $10,000 in revenue this month, but that still doesn't allow for salaries

Host advice: No salary until consistent profitability

Reality check on their current numbers[50:30]
• George notes that since revenue just roughly equals overhead, there is no room to pay themselves yet; any "what should we pay ourselves" question is moot until profits exceed fixed costs
Need for aggressive marketing and growth[51:05]
• John says they probably "jumped off the dock before the boat got in" and are now treading water with a newborn, multiple jobs, and a large family loan
• He suggests getting aggressive about marketing the practice and filling the schedule so that the business can get to $20,000-$30,000 per month, which might support salaries
Possible future pivot if numbers don't work[52:27]
• George raises the possibility that if the practice doesn't perform within 6-12 months, they may need to consider closing it and Michael simply working for someone else until their finances are healthier

Question of the Day: Meredith's adult sons living at home and not contributing

Meredith's situation with three adult sons

Income and living arrangement[54:03]
• Meredith is a divorced mom of three sons, ages 24, 22, and 19, and earns about $48,000 per year
• The 22- and 19-year-olds live with her; all sons went straight to the workforce after high school
Inconsistent contributions and financial strain[54:49]
• The two younger sons occasionally contribute toward household bills but struggle to keep up, and when they don't, Meredith covers everything
• She proposed a predictable monthly amount instead of ad hoc bill-paying, but they claim they don't make enough, though she believes they do but have other priorities
• Her home is paid off, but she is sinking under the financial responsibility

Host analysis: Enmeshment, math problem, and delayed adulthood

Meredith's dependence on the boys and their stalled growth[55:11]
• John says she is keeping the boys around partly because she wants and needs them around financially, preventing them from carrying real adult responsibility
• He argues they do not feel the full weight of rent and utilities because they know Mom won't really kick them out, so they act like kids
Meredith's income is insufficient for her lifestyle[55:51]
• John states plainly that $48,000 a year isn't covering her current life; she must either sell the house and downsize or get a higher-paying job
• Otherwise, her sons will remain in a perpetual dance of not leaving because they fear she'll be evicted or because they're not forced to grow

Need for hard conversations and clear expectations

Setting non-negotiable rent or move-out timelines[56:25]
• George says she has a math problem and must either raise her income or lower expenses, which includes deciding whether she really needs adult renters (her kids or others) to afford the house
• They encourage her to tell the sons clearly that if they don't pay a set, affordable amount on time, they will need to find another place to live
Emotional barriers and loneliness[56:45]
• John points out that behind this is her fear of a quiet, lonely house if all three boys move out, and the reality that she truly can't afford the current setup
• He warns that conflict deferred is conflict amplified, and urges her to initiate these difficult conversations on her own terms

Caller Amanda: Should a large family downsize home to speed payoff and save more?

Current situation and motivations

Debt-free except mortgage with six kids[1:00:38]
• Amanda's husband is a teacher and bus driver; she is a disabled veteran and stay-at-home mom; they have six children
• They are debt-free besides their mortgage and contribute to investing and college funds
Idea to sell home for a smaller mortgage[1:00:48]
• Amanda wonders if selling their home and buying a cheaper one would let them pay off the new mortgage faster, invest more, and better handle costs of older kids

Financial specifics and host response

Mortgage and potential equity difference[1:01:36]
• They owe about $130,000 on their current home in northwest Arkansas and think downsizing might reduce the mortgage by around $40,000
Not enough savings to justify disruption[1:02:33]
• George points out that a $40,000 reduction is not a massive gain once selling costs (6-7% commissions, moving expenses) are factored in
• John and George agree this is not "fund all six kids' college" money and doesn't justify upheaval if the current mortgage is manageable

Role of kids and revisiting expectations

No obligation to fund everything for kids[1:01:42]
• George reminds her there is no rule requiring them to pay off the house in exactly five to seven years or fully fund all college costs
• He notes that older kids can and should help cover their own expenses (sports, activities, college) rather than parents shouldering everything alone
Teaching responsibility by sharing costs[1:03:09]
• John describes how his own kids are expected to participate financially in certain activities, even though he could afford to pay for them outright
• They advise Amanda to keep the house, keep paying extra on the mortgage, and let the kids share in costs rather than sacrificing the home for a small mortgage reduction

Caller Clarissa: Active duty couple facing shutdown and tempted by 0% loan

Debt progress and looming government shutdown

Massive debt payoff and remaining balance[1:04:58]
• Clarissa and her husband, both active duty, have paid off $152,000 in debt and have $30,000 left
Uncertainty about upcoming paychecks[1:04:48]
• Because of a government shutdown, they don't know if they will receive a paycheck on the 15th, even though they must continue to work

Offer of 0% loan and Clarissa's concern

Interest-free shutdown bridge loan[1:05:56]
• She explains that a financial institution is offering an interest-free "shutdown loan" up to the amount of the missed paycheck, to be repaid when back pay arrives
Hosts' emotional response to her situation[1:05:36]
• John expresses anger and sadness that people serving their country are being used as pawns and not getting paid while bills still come due
• He explicitly says he hates that this is happening to her and calls it "stupid" and "dumb"

Numbers and immediate priorities

Emergency fund and upcoming bills[1:07:03]
• They have only the $1,000 starter emergency fund, and upcoming bills include utilities, daycare, tuition, and mortgage
Household income and mortgage size[1:07:15]
• They bring home roughly $12,000 per month combined (about $6,000 each), and their mortgage is $2,000 per month

Host advice: Storm mode, four walls, and avoid the loan

Pause extra debt payments and cover essentials only[1:07:51]
• George tells them to pause all debt payments beyond what's already sent and go into "storm mode," focusing only on food, utilities, housing, and transportation
• He suggests negotiating with daycare, the kids' school (for tuition), and the mortgage company to temporarily defer or reduce payments, explaining the shutdown situation
Call creditors early and be transparent[1:08:31]
• John emphasizes calling the mortgage company and others now, before payments are due, to explain they are dual-military and currently unpaid by the government
• He expects many institutions to have specific procedures in place due to the large number of affected people
Seek side income with chain of command approval[1:10:17]
• They are allowed to take on side work with senior leadership approval; John urges them to ask for that approval so they can drive for hire or do other side hustles after hours
Do not take the 0% loan unless absolutely last resort[1:10:29]
• Despite acknowledging the offer is tempting and that he might consider it in her shoes, John advises against taking on new debt because of uncertainty about back pay and future terms
• He notes political talk that back pay might not be granted, which would leave them with a loan and no lump sum to cover it later
• He would rather see them ask for help from family or community or even use fundraising platforms before turning to the loan

Caller Cassie: Renting college house to married son and daughter-in-law and potential sale

Background on second home in college town

Original purpose to combat rising college rents[1:14:50]
• Cassie and her husband bought a small second home in Auburn, Alabama, when their oldest started college, after seeing rents rise every year in college-town apartments
• The idea was to let their kids live there during college and then sell it
Shift to long-term use when son marries[1:15:18]
• Their youngest was also living there as a roommate, but after the oldest got married, he and his new wife chose to stay in the house instead of moving away
• They had to find the youngest child a new place to live, and the married couple now covers the small mortgage

Plan to help them rent now and buy later at a discount

Intended "wedding gift" concept[1:15:47]
• Cassie describes renting it to them for below-market rent as part of a wedding gift, then later selling the home to them at a family discount to help them start life
• The parents' home is paid off; this house has a small mortgage they've been aggressively paying down
Potential sale price and equity[1:20:14]
• The home is worth about $285,000; they bought it for $150,000 and owe $150,000 or less, leaving significant equity
• They have considered selling it to the kids for $220,000, a below-market price that still feels manageable to the couple

Host advice: Focus on relationship, short leases, and tax implications

Avoid overcommitting the young couple's future[1:16:14]
• John notes that newlyweds' lives are fluid-jobs, pregnancies, and desires change-so promising a multi-year path to buy that exact house could corner them later
• He recommends signing a standard one-year lease with them and saying, "If you ever want to buy this, you call us," instead of locking in a 2-3-year plan now
Keep relationships priority over property[1:16:16]
• John stresses repeatedly that he cares far more about the long-term relationship than about the money or house and wants to avoid future resentment if the couple feels obligated to buy when they no longer want to
Tax and gifting issues when selling below market[1:20:24]
• George notes that because it is a rental/second property, the parents will owe capital gains tax on appreciation when they sell
• He explains that selling below market value to children can trigger gift tax issues, as the discount between market value and sale price is treated as a gift above annual exclusion limits
• He also points out they would forfeit a step-up in basis that the kids would have received if they inherited the home instead of buying it while the parents are alive
Alternative: Gift cash for down payment[1:20:21]
• George suggests that if the real goal is generosity, there are more tax-efficient options such as gifting cash each year within IRS limits to help with a down payment on whatever house the couple truly wants
Next steps: Get professional tax advice[1:20:24]
• They recommend Cassie speak with a tax professional or SmartVestor Pro to model different approaches and ensure there are no surprise tax bills for either generation

Caller Elena: Project car vs. reliable truck for newlyweds

Couple's financial position and vehicles

Debt-free with paid-off house and cars[1:24:58]
• Elena and her husband married in July, have two older paid-off cars, a paid-off house, a fully funded emergency fund, and additional cash savings
• They have about $6,000 in cash beyond the emergency fund
Vehicle needs vs. wants[1:25:28]
• Elena wants a Hyundai Genesis 2.0T as a project car to fix up and keep, while her husband wants to buy something to fix and sell as a business
• Her daily driver is a 2006 4Runner with 250,000 miles; he drives a service truck provided by work that can only be used for commuting
• They also periodically borrow her dad's truck several times a month, underscoring a real need for a truck

Project car cost and income/expenses

Estimated cost of the project car[1:25:35]
• The cars they're looking at would cost about $900-$1,500 to buy and $1,500-$2,000 in parts, so roughly $4,000 all-in
Monthly income and low expenses[1:26:25]
• They bring home about $5,000 per month, while their total monthly expenses (including some medical bills) are around $1,200
• This leaves substantial monthly margin that could be directed toward a truck fund and later a project car

Host guidance: Prioritize need (truck) before hobby car

Clarifying that Elena wants time with her husband[1:27:11]
• John observes that Elena already has a fun, more powerful car in the household that her husband doesn't drive to work, and what she really wants is a shared project/hobby with her husband
• He suggests she explicitly frame it as wanting to do a project together rather than just arguing about needing another car
Plan: Save aggressively for truck, then project car[1:27:44]
• George proposes they first save $12,000-$16,000 over the next few months for a good used truck, using their strong monthly margin and existing $6,000 savings
• Once the truck is purchased, they can then save another $4,000 to buy and build the project Genesis, perhaps by early the following year
Reduce car clutter by selling one older vehicle[1:28:03]
• John notes they are close to having an excessive number of cars and suggests selling at least one of the older vehicles (like the 4Runner or his toy car) to help fund the needed truck more quickly

Caller Susan: Husband's job loss, failed flip, caregiving, and whether to sell rental or tap 401(k)

Family and financial background

Husband's lost six-figure job and age[1:34:38]
• Susan's husband, in his late 60s, lost his six-figure job a year earlier when a government contract with the VA did not renew
• She is in her early 60s and cares full-time for her mother with dementia
House-flipping side business and recent failure[1:35:09]
• For about a decade he successfully flipped homes in his spare time, but the most recent project, undertaken after his job loss, is not going well due to contractor issues
• They will not realize the intended return on investment from this current flip, which is about to be listed

Assets: paid-off home, 401(k), and rental property

Rental property with equity and seasonal income[1:35:55]
• Their primary home is paid off, and they own a rental property that generates good income in peak season and sometimes extended stays in winter
• The rental's equity is about the same amount as her 401(k); it has a mortgage of roughly $329,000 and could sell in the upper $500,000s, netting around $150,000
401(k) vs. rental equity dilemma[1:36:11]
• Susan is trying to decide whether to take money from her 401(k), borrow against it, or liquidate the rental property to survive financially while the flip sells

Host assessment: Need income and simplification, not more complexity

Avoid tapping or borrowing against the 401(k)[1:36:57]
• George strongly prefers selling the rental over draining or borrowing from the 401(k), noting tax implications and the importance of retirement security at their age
Husband must accept new work reality[1:37:21]
• John says the identity tied to a six-figure job is over and encourages her husband to consider lower-paying but steady roles, such as working at a large home improvement retailer
• He emphasizes that making $45,000 at a retail job is better than making zero while chasing flip deals that are now higher risk
Caregiving realities and tough decisions about mom[1:38:11]
• Susan is the only sibling caring for her mom and currently keeps her at home with rotating caregivers, including herself
• John points out they have to choose reality: if they cannot afford to house and support her long-term, they may have to explore Medicaid and facility care options

Specific recommendation: Sell the rental property to create margin

Rationale for selling rental[1:39:13]
• George says the last thing Susan needs amid job loss, health issues, and caregiving is to also be a landlord with a large rental mortgage
• Selling the rental would simplify life and provide about $150,000 of liquidity to stabilize their situation while they figure out long-term work and care plans

Caller James: Paying off house at 35 and what comes after Baby Step 6

James's financial milestone

House payoff at age 35[1:45:36]
• James and his wife, both 35, plan to pay off their house in December, with a 3-year-old daughter at home
• The home is worth a little over $600,000, and they will have no other debt
Feeling lost after beating the "video game"[1:46:25]
• James jokes that he feels like he "beat the video game" and wonders what is next now that the major debt goal is almost done

Hosts' guidance: Baby Step 7 and designing their life

Enter Baby Step 7: build wealth and give[1:46:52]
• George explains that once the house is paid off, they are in Baby Step 7, where the focus shifts to building wealth, giving generously, and enjoying some of what they've built
• He notes they can now increase investing beyond 15%, give more, spend more, and maybe upgrade their home or cars if those align with their goals
Dreaming and setting new goals together[1:46:46]
• John suggests scheduling a half-day date right after paying off the house to dream and ask, "How do we want this house and life to feel?"
• They could decide on goals such as giving a house to their daughter someday, fully funding college, or committing to specific giving targets by certain ages
Balancing upgrades, generosity, and investing[1:47:48]
• George encourages them to plan for upgrades (e.g., nicer cars, big trips) but also to "practice" being radically generous, like paying bills for struggling families or tipping big
• He mentions concrete ideas: putting $10,000 into a 529 for their daughter, maxing retirement accounts, funding a vacation, and creating a car replacement fund
Appreciating the spouse's sacrifices[1:47:14]
• James notes his wife has made many sacrifices; they discuss planning a dream U.S. trip (like Lake Tahoe) in 2026 and doing it "big" with upgrades and spa days as a celebration

Caller Michelle: Business failure, sudden death of husband, and overwhelmed by debts

Couple's business history and decision to close

Business opened right before COVID and struggled[1:55:39]
• Michelle and her husband opened a business five weeks before COVID and spent seven years in survival mode, digging deeper into debt
• They finally decided to call it quits, get regular jobs, and move forward
Husband's new job and sudden death[1:55:39]
• Michelle got a job first to stabilize monthly bills; her husband then got a job that would have doubled their income
• After one week at the new job, he had a massive heart attack and died on September 3, just days before their ninth anniversary

Debt types and emotional shutdown

Mix of tax debt, student loans, and other obligations[1:57:24]
• They have various debts: taxes, student loans (including a parent loan she took out for her daughter), and other obligations, many coming to a head at once
Income without husband and rough debt estimate[1:57:33]
• Michelle earns about $75,000 per year and believes total non-mortgage debt is around $120,000
• Their primary home was already in her name and is paid off separately from these debts

Host guidance: Pause, stabilize four walls, and inventory everything

Grief timeline and not rushing decisions[1:57:24]
• John notes she is only about 30 days out from her husband's death and may not even remember this phone call; his focus is on giving her a few next right steps, not a full plan
Four walls first[1:58:52]
• He emphasizes that right now the only financial priorities are housing, utilities, food, and transportation; everything else can temporarily wait
• He tells her not to start new payment plans or arrangements until she knows the full picture
Get clear on what is owed and what may be discharged[1:59:43]
• Michelle needs to pull her credit report and, if applicable, her late husband's, to see all accounts, balances, and any business-related debts
• George mentions some debts, like certain student loans in a deceased person's name, may be forgiven, while consolidated or jointly-held debts may still fall on her
House affordability and possible downsize[2:00:25]
• If, after inventory, her $75,000 income cannot sustainably cover the house and debts, she may need to sell the house and downsize or live with family temporarily

Practical administrative tasks after a death

Obtain multiple death certificates[1:59:57]
• John advises her to obtain 15-20 certified copies of the death certificate, as many institutions will require one to close or adjust accounts
Expect bureaucratic friction[1:59:57]
• He warns that dealing with companies after a death can feel surreal; some people may even assume a scam, and she should let rude comments roll off and keep doing the next step

Support and resources offered

Need another person in the process[2:00:33]
• John encourages her not to do this alone; a daughter, friend, or coworker should sit with her as she works through the paperwork and decisions
Financial coaching and budgeting tool[2:00:33]
• George offers a free session with a Ramsey financial coach and access to the premium budgeting app to help her lay everything out and make a realistic plan

Lessons Learned

Actionable insights and wisdom you can apply to your business, career, and personal life.

1

When money and identity get tangled in family relationships, you must separate the emotional from the factual: pull every statement and credit report, verify where the money went, and set legal and relational boundaries based on what is actually true, not what you hope is true.

Reflection Questions:

  • • Where in my finances do I currently rely on someone else's word instead of documented statements or reports?
  • • How might my willingness to see the full, uncomfortable truth change the way I relate to certain family members around money?
  • • What is one concrete boundary I need to set this month to protect my finances, even if it risks temporary relational tension?
2

Chasing tiny interest-rate spreads by borrowing cheap and saving or investing the difference often isn't worth the stress, complexity, and risk compared to the simple freedom of owning things outright.

Reflection Questions:

  • • In what areas of my finances am I overcomplicating things in the name of optimization instead of choosing the simpler, safer path?
  • • How would my day-to-day mental load change if I eliminated one major payment and the decisions that surround it?
  • • What is one debt I could realistically commit to paying off in full this year purely for the sake of peace, not just math?
3

Hard conversations you avoid-about adult children contributing, ex-spouses honoring agreements, or parents overstepping-don't disappear; they compound into larger problems that are harder and more expensive to fix later.

Reflection Questions:

  • • Which financial or relational conversation have I been postponing even though I know it needs to happen?
  • • How could delaying this discussion make my future options more limited or more costly?
  • • What specific time, place, and opening sentence can I commit to for initiating this conversation within the next two weeks?
4

In a crisis-whether it's a job loss, government shutdown, medical emergency, or the death of a spouse-the priority is survival and clarity: protect the four walls, pause nonessential payments, and only then design a long-term plan based on a full inventory of debts and assets.

Reflection Questions:

  • • If my income dropped suddenly next month, what are my true four-wall expenses and how long could I cover them with current savings?
  • • Where am I still trying to maintain "normal" spending or debt payoff patterns when my situation actually calls for storm-mode behavior?
  • • What information (statements, credit reports, balances) do I need to gather this week so that my future decisions are based on facts rather than assumptions?
5

Reaching major financial milestones like paying off a house isn't the end of the game; it's the beginning of designing a life on purpose-deciding how you want your home and relationships to feel and aligning your giving, spending, and investing with those values.

Reflection Questions:

  • • If I had no payments tomorrow, what kind of home environment and daily rhythm would I want to create for myself and my family?
  • • How aligned are my current spending and saving habits with the way I say I want my life to feel five to ten years from now?
  • • What new goal-related to generosity, experiences, or investments-could my household set this year that would excite us more than just another number in an account?

Episode Summary - Notes by Sage

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