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The Ramsey Show

It's Time To Stop Surviving And Start Winning With Money

Published October 24, 2025
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About This Episode

Hosts George Kamel and Jade Warshaw take live calls about handling money using the Ramsey "baby steps" framework. Callers navigate issues including divorce and business ownership, large RV and housing debts, career and income problems, retirement planning, insurance products, and moral questions around inheritances. The episode emphasizes staying out of debt, building emergency funds, investing wisely, and avoiding complex or risky financial products and decisions marketed as "opportunities."

Topics Covered

Debt payoff Budgeting Mortgage Retirement savings Investing Small business financing Side hustles Relationships Life insurance Estate planning

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Quick Takeaways

  • Courts and lawyers may move slowly in divorce and business disputes, so building a bare-bones survival plan and pressing for stronger legal support is critical.
  • Lifestyle creep and large discretionary purchases like RVs can trap people in long-term debt, making it harder to enjoy life later when health or time allows.
  • The Ramsey plan prioritizes a full emergency fund before investing, because emergencies are varied and predictable only in that they will happen.
  • Buying or upgrading houses, businesses, and equipment with large amounts of debt often creates more stress and risk than the perceived "opportunity" is worth.
  • Side hustles can be powerful for accelerating debt payoff, but must be balanced with health, family needs, and realistic timelines.
  • If a neighborhood situation changes (like a planned homeless shelter), homeowners must weigh financial losses against personal peace and safety, using data and community engagement.
  • Complex products like whole life policies and annuities usually offer poor value compared to simple term life insurance and straightforward investing.
  • Adult children often end up navigating aging parents' financial decisions, inheritances, and estate disputes, and may need to set clear moral and legal boundaries.

Podcast Notes

Show introduction and framing

Hosts introduce themselves and the show's purpose

George Kamel and Jade Warshaw open the show from the studio and explain they are here to help listeners transform their lives with money.[0:26]
They remind listeners that "normal is broke" and the show offers a different way to handle money.[0:08]

Caller Joy: Divorce, business ownership, and survival plan

Joy's situation: sudden financial collapse after separation

Joy, in her early 30s with three children, describes going through a complete reset after leaving an abusive, controlling marriage.[0:43]
She and her husband co-owned a multi-million-dollar manufacturing LLC where she is a 50% legal owner, but she has been locked out.[0:48]
Divorce proceedings began in June; there are lawyers on both sides and 59 counts of contempt of court filed against her husband.[2:18]
Courts have focused on custody for now and deferred the company and financial disputes to divorce court and mediation scheduled for February.[2:50]

Income, support orders, and current living situation

Joy says the court has ordered she receive about $2,500 per month related to custody issues while the case is pending.[3:45]
She is used to living on about $20,000 a month and is now trying to survive on roughly $5,000 total (support plus side income).[4:07]
She recently got her first rental after always having owned homes; rent is $1,750 per month.[6:36]
She homeschools her children and drives a paid-for 2021 Tahoe but spends significant money on gas traveling 30 minutes four times a week for custody exchanges.[7:38]

Locked out of the company and legal frustrations

Joy explains her husband accused her of embezzlement, used that to justify locking her out of the building and systems, stopping her pay, and diverting company funds to his account.[3:07]
She says she cannot even file for unemployment because he will not provide needed documentation.[4:19]
Her attorney has tried to raise the issue in court, but the judge repeatedly says the company issues will be tried in divorce court later.[5:37]
Joy states the judge has ordered him to pay her a set amount monthly in the meantime; she feels this is very little compared to prior income.[5:37]

Hosts' advice: legal strategy and survival budgeting

Jade challenges why Joy's 50% ownership does not give her equal control, asking why she cannot "lock him out" and why the current balance of power exists.[5:09]
When Joy explains repeated court responses, Jade concludes that Joy likely needs a different attorney and that her current lawyer may not be advocating strongly enough.[8:07]
George and Jade stress that custody is a priority but should not come at the detriment of Joy having zero access to her income and ownership rights.[7:05]
They affirm Joy's entrepreneurial hustle (piano lessons, baked goods) but insist she keep pushing legally because February mediation is far away.[4:07]
George notes there's no immediate financial "fire"-no personal debt in her name-so her focus should be covering the "four walls" (rent, food, utilities, transportation) and enduring until the divorce case resolves more of the financial mess.[8:42]
Jade suggests forcing the sale of the jointly owned $2 million house he lives in as part of the divorce, even though Joy expects that may take a year or more.[8:02]
They remind Joy she is the one who fled abuse, so she actually has the moral upper hand and should hire an attorney who understands and uses that leverage.[8:34]

Caller John: RV debt, health, and slowing down baby steps

John's background: surgeries, neighbor's death, and desire to travel

John from Bowling Green says he and his wife have been in the baby steps for two years and started with $268,000 in debt, including an RV.[10:32]
He has had nine surgeries over the past three years and has been pretty sick; that morning his neighbor passed away, while he just got a clean bill of health.[10:56]
These events make him and his wife want to travel and enjoy life while they can.[11:19]

Current debt picture and the RV problem

John currently has $218,460 in consumer debt, meaning they've paid off just over $50,000 so far.[11:41]
About half of the remaining debt-around $120,000-is the RV; it has been listed for sale for about a year with no sale.[12:11]
He has it listed around $125,000 even though it books around $160,000 for private sale, roughly what they owe.[12:40]
They are trying to just get out from under the RV by paying off what they owe; the listing is through online ads and RV Trader, handled by themselves.[12:40]

Question: Is it okay to slow down and enjoy life with trips?

John is 62 and his wife is 61; he asks if it's okay to be the "slowest gazelle" for the next few years so they can travel some while finishing debt payoff.[11:56]
Jade acknowledges his perspective given health scares and death around him but worries that starting a travel lifestyle with debt will be hard to stop and could lead to more borrowing.[14:07]
She emphasizes that he now has a clean bill of health, his wife is healthy, and there is still a large pile of debt that needs cleanup in his 60s.[14:55]
Jade points out a real risk: if something happens to him, his wife could be left with significant debt while grieving.[16:09]

Compromise: small celebrations vs. lifestyle change

John clarifies they just want small two- or three-day overnight trips in the RV costing about $200 per weekend.[15:20]
Jade says a one-time celebratory trip after his clean bill of health is fine, but she warns against turning frequent RV trips into a lifestyle that slows debt payoff.[14:37]
George suggests John find side income or extra work to fund those $200 weekends without pulling from the debt snowball, so trips do not delay progress.[16:45]
They also recommend exploring consignment or professional listing services to sell the RV, even at some cost, to get higher exposure and potentially a better price.[17:30]

Caller Ethan: Finished Baby Step 3 and next steps when single

Ethan's status and question

Ethan, age 25 in Nashville, announces he completed Baby Step 3 and has never been great with money but likes following the system.[18:04]
He is single, not married, has no kids, and has never bought a house, so he wonders how Baby Steps 5 (kids' college) and 6 (pay off mortgage) apply to him.[18:35]
He asks what to do with his money now outside of those steps.[18:41]

Hosts' guidance on Baby Step 4 and saving for a house

Jade tells Ethan to focus on Baby Step 4: invest 15% of his income into good growth stock mutual funds, using a workplace plan (like a Roth 401(k)) or a Roth IRA.[19:00]
George adds that beyond the 15% investing, Ethan should save aggressively for a future house down payment, especially since home prices in Nashville often require six-figure down payments to stay within 25% of take-home pay.[19:34]
They encourage him to also allow some room for fun money in his budget since he is young, after funding investments and savings.[19:17]

Caller Rebecca: House across from proposed homeless shelter

Rebecca's home purchase and unexpected news

Rebecca and her husband bought a house earlier in the year near a specific city for religious and social reasons and moved in a week after having their first baby.[21:25]
Because the city is expensive, they bought on the outskirts, planning to live there 7-10 years to build equity and then move.[21:35]
Two months after moving in, they learned the church across the street wants to open a homeless shelter on adjacent land it owns.[21:49]
She says government officials urged the pastor not to proceed because it's a residential area with families and children, but he is insistent.[22:05]
The project is currently under an audit, with conflicting timelines of 6-12 months and no clear answers.[22:31]

Attempted sale and financial bind

Rebecca and her husband put about $40,000 of work into the home; when they found out about the shelter, they listed the house at a price that included that $40,000.[23:06]
She acknowledges the house was overpriced because of the improvements and got no hits.[22:48]
If they sell now, they likely cannot afford anything else in their desired area because other houses are double the price.[22:55]
She is torn between selling now, possibly at a loss, to avoid further loss if the shelter opens, versus staying and risking depreciation and safety concerns.[23:09]

Timeline and community response

Rebecca says the pastor told her it would take 2-3 years to build the facility and he expects people to come immediately once it opens.[24:46]
She notes neighbors are calling officials and community liaisons have tried to negotiate, but the pastor is firm in his plan.[25:47]
Neighbors feel stuck because they cannot afford to move elsewhere; Rebecca fears a "wait and see" approach will leave them trapped.[25:19]

Hosts' analysis: financial vs. personal peace

Jade tells Rebecca she likely cannot recoup the $40,000 spent on improvements if they sell soon and will have to accept that loss if they move.[24:41]
George suggests doing due diligence: pull comps for homes near existing homeless shelters in Boston to see actual impact on prices over time.[26:20]
He points out there's no universal rule that a nearby shelter permanently tanks property values; data may show declines during construction but later stabilization or rebound.[26:29]
Jade emphasizes Rebecca must decide how much her peace and feeling of safety are worth; if she "doesn't want to live there," moving may be justified even with financial setback.[28:55]
They discuss the option of returning to renting after selling, calling any loss a "stupid tax" that was largely out of their control.[27:01]
George says if he personally were staring directly at the shelter from his front door, he would likely move, watching carefully for signs that the project is truly going ahead before deciding.[29:03]

Caller Henry: Motivation for Baby Step 2 amid medical trauma

Henry's backstory and emotional state

Henry is starting Baby Step 2 (debt payoff) and asks how to stay motivated given demotivating external circumstances.[33:06]
He explains his wife had an intrusive brain surgery at the end of 2020 that took away their hopes and dreams of their future life together.[33:24]
He says they struggle with feeling like there's nothing to live for at the other end of the baby steps, which makes it hard to care about money goals.[33:37]

Current debt and income

Henry has about $45,000 in debt and has recently been unable to pay credit card bills for a couple of months due to depression and shame.[33:58]
He makes $59,000 a year at his day job with a 10% bonus, and he just picked up a restaurant job expecting roughly $1,500 a month in extra income during the season.[34:24]

Processing grief and using the baby steps as focus

Jade reframes the question back to Henry, asking why paying off debt matters to him now.[35:04]
He says he has always paid on time, but recent depression led to falling behind; he is embarrassed and wants to stop that pattern, hence picking up a second job and deciding to "grind through it."[35:15]
Jade notes that when everything else feels out of control, having a productive focus like debt payoff can give a sense of control and lead to peace on the other side.[36:24]
She also says that once the debt is gone, it clears the deck for them to define what their new life will look like given her health situation.[36:45]

Balancing hustle with caregiving and exhaustion

Henry is concerned about exhaustion from extra restaurant hours and spending more time away from his wife, who is home alone and experiences neurological fatigue.[37:43]
He estimates a 20-month timeline to pay off the debt with his plan.[37:24]
Jade, drawing on her 7.5-year debt payoff journey, explains that there will be moments of "pedal to the metal" and other times when life forces a temporary slowdown; that's normal.[39:28]
She encourages him to start with the intention of gazelle intensity and adjust as needed if there are health crises, then ramp back up as soon as they can.[38:59]

Grief, lost dreams, and redefining the future

Henry shares that their dreams of children and a "normal life" doing art in LA were disrupted; they moved back near family for help, and his wife can no longer play or sing as she used to.[40:12]
He says they are unsure about becoming parents now because of her daily fatigue; it would require him making enough to work from home or hire in-home help.[39:42]
He notes the surgery was about four years ago, but it's especially fresh now because his wife's mom just had brainstem surgery for the same disease and is in the ICU.[40:53]

Encouragement and resources

George expresses empathy and says Henry is taking the right steps by working, hustling, and going to therapy.[41:45]
George offers to send Henry a copy of John Deloney's book "Building a Non-Anxious Life" and mentions its principle of choosing reality and grieving what was while defining a new picture.[41:49]
He argues that Henry actually has more reason than most to follow the baby steps to create financial peace and flexibility, so he can be present for his wife without being chained to debt.[43:53]
George frames the choice as suffering intensely for 20 months to get debt-free versus enduring 20 years of mediocrity and shame around money.[43:26]

Hosts' reflection: why to follow the baby steps before crisis hits

Importance of preparing financially for unpredictable life events

After Henry's call, George notes many people resist the baby steps because life currently feels fine, but you can't show them the future where life happens to them.[43:26]
He asks whether people would rather face life's inevitable crises with financial peace or with financial chaos.[43:53]
Jade clarifies this isn't fatalistic thinking; emergencies happen, such as injuries, diagnoses, and divorce, and no one starts the day expecting bad news.[43:45]
They argue that following the baby steps-being debt-free, having an emergency fund, investing-positions you as best as possible when emergencies do occur.[43:53]

Caller Oliver: Considering $1 million in debt for house and business expansion

Oliver's recent success and upcoming obligations

Oliver from Iowa has historically followed Ramsey principles, with no personal loans until about a year ago when he started a business.[44:30]
His business, an aerospace and medical device machining company, opened in February and has more than tripled his income, now netting $13,000-$15,000 per month while he still works a full-time job.[46:29]
He and his wife have already signed paperwork and started building a $560,000 house, following guidelines of a 25% down payment and keeping the payment to no more than 25% of income.[45:19]

The "opportunity": $450,000 machine financed with debt

Oliver faces an opportunity requiring an additional $450,000 investment in a new machine, including installation and tooling, which he says would at least triple his income.[47:42]
He is currently maxed out with one machine running two shifts and cannot meet customer demand; he fears losing specific orders if he doesn't add capacity within four months.[47:23]
Oliver admits he originally planned to use loans and grow exponentially, not strictly by cash, and didn't expect growth to come this fast.[49:53]

Hosts' caution: risk, family, and alternative growth path

George reacts strongly to the word "opportunity," noting it often precedes bad financial decisions, and questions whether everything must be done all at once.[48:23]
He asks what happens if Oliver does nothing for two years; Oliver says he'd lose this particular business in four months, but not all opportunity forever.[48:14]
George and Jade emphasize upcoming life changes: a baby on the way and a new house, warning that layering another $450,000 in business debt will create immense pressure and require exhausting work.[48:53]
George suggests making a plan to save up and pay cash for the machine in less than two years, given their strong household income, instead of leveraging debt now.[51:08]
He argues that opportunities will still exist two years from now for a competent, honest machinist, and a paid-for machine would then produce great cash flow without a large monthly payment.[51:23]
George paints a vision of a future multi-million-dollar machining business with equipment paid for in cash and encourages Oliver not to leapfrog the process with risky debt.[51:53]

Caller Philip: Low income, new baby, and paycheck-to-paycheck living

Philip's current financial picture

Philip and his wife have been living paycheck-to-paycheck for years; they once escaped that when he had a higher-paying job, but he lost it and now works as a custodian.[54:23]
They just had their second child; his wife is not currently working, and he is struggling to stretch a once-a-month paycheck.[54:38]
Philip mentions medical debt for both of them but is unsure of exact amounts and says he may have paid off an old credit card since they haven't contacted him.[55:31]

Lack of clarity and the need for a plan

Jade observes uncertainty in his language and notes he doesn't have a clear picture of his debts, which makes it hard to gain control.[56:14]
She instructs Philip and his wife to sit down that night, gather all statements, and pull all three credit reports from annualcreditreport.com to list every debt.[55:57]
She explains that without a written budget and complete list of debts, it's very hard to stop living paycheck-to-paycheck.[56:23]

Income, housing, and recognizing an income problem

Philip earns $17 an hour, bringing home about $2,300 per month from his custodian job.[56:48]
They pay about $1,000 per month in rent, which is nearly half his take-home pay.[58:13]
He expects his wife could earn around $1,000 every two weeks when she returns to work, but doesn't want to rush her back after giving birth a month ago.[58:01]
George and Jade both label this as primarily an income problem: with such low income relative to rent, they cannot get traction.[59:23]

Action steps: multiple jobs and career shift

Jade bluntly tells Philip he may need "four jobs" for a season, in addition to his wife's eventual return to work, since they lack the luxury of both parents being home full-time.[1:00:15]
George asks about Philip's prior higher-paying job; he previously made $22 an hour at an ethanol plant and has construction experience.[59:53]
George suggests Philip pursue not just "jobs" but a career he can grow in, aiming for $50,000-$80,000 incomes over time given his work ethic and skills.[59:12]
They offer to send him a career book to help him find work he is wired to do and stress that increasing income is essential before debt payoff can realistically progress.[1:00:02]

Caller John: Using VA loan for land and double-wide vs. staying in house

Planned move and loan options

John and his wife are expecting a baby and plan to move within a year onto family land being given to them.[1:00:45]
They want to place a double-wide manufactured home on the land and live there as their "forever" home.[1:01:23]
John is considering whether to bundle the land and home into a VA loan (similar to his current mortgage) or keep the land separate and finance the home with a chattel loan, which he recognizes is a high-interest personal property loan.[1:01:30]

Hosts' reaction to chattel loans and manufactured home

George reacts negatively to the chattel loan idea, calling it a high-interest loan on a depreciating asset, and labels it a bad plan.[1:01:53]
He also critiques VA loans in general as being riddled with fees, long closing times, and encouraging zero-down purchases, leaving buyers with no equity.[1:02:06]
When asked, John shares they owe $110,000 on their current house, $38,000 on a truck, and have about $1,000 on a credit card, with strong combined incomes now and higher expected when his wife finishes school.[1:02:37]
George and Jade question the rush to leave an appreciating house to buy a depreciating double-wide, urging them to slow down and get out of debt first.[1:03:08]

Question of the Day: Toby and skipping emergency fund for more investing

Toby's scenario

Toby from New York has two full-time jobs; income from the second job is currently going to retirement investing.[1:05:58]
He is debt-free except for his mortgage and wonders if he can skip the emergency fund since the second job "insulates" him from losing the primary job.[1:06:17]
He wants to invest as much as possible while young and "worry about the emergency fund later."[1:06:17]

Why the emergency fund comes before investing

Jade explains the baby step order: Baby Step 1 is $1,000 starter fund, Baby Step 2 is non-mortgage debt payoff, Baby Step 3 is 3-6 months of expenses in a full emergency fund, then Baby Step 4 is investing.[1:06:46]
She notes emergencies are not limited to job loss; health issues or accidents can also require cash.[1:06:10]
Without an emergency fund, Toby would either have to cash out investments (incurring taxes and penalties) or take on new debt when something goes wrong.[1:06:52]
She underscores that the baby steps are a system that must be followed in order; rearranging them breaks the system's effectiveness.[1:07:39]

Critique of two full-time jobs as "insulation"

George questions how Toby can effectively work two full-time jobs and jokes about him not sleeping.[1:08:18]
He notes that Toby is "not God" and cannot schedule all emergencies for after retirement; planning to do the emergency fund later is unrealistic.[1:08:36]
He recommends pausing investing, stacking up cash for a three-month emergency fund in a high-yield savings account, and then resuming investing once that foundation is secure.[1:08:39]

Caller Stephanie: Baby Step 4 feels like it wipes out margin

Stephanie's budget shock after increasing retirement contributions

Stephanie and her husband just finished Baby Step 3 and she increased her 401(k) contribution to 15%.[1:09:15]
When they ran the new budget, the higher contribution "wiped out" their extra cash that they had hoped to use for more spending, extra payments on the house, or saving for a newer van.[1:09:32]
Their current van is a 2005 Honda Odyssey with only one working sliding door.[1:09:44]

Income, expenses, and identifying leaks

They bring in about $3,800 pre-tax per pay period (biweekly), or about $7,700 pre-tax monthly.[1:10:39]
Mortgage is $1,500 on a 30-year note, roughly 20% of their pre-tax income.[1:10:28]
They tithe about 5%, and she estimates 15% into the 401(k), around 15% in taxes, 20% mortgage, 10% groceries, 5% eating out, and about 8% to health insurance.[1:11:29]
They have a $200/month Christmas sinking fund and possibly other small categories but no major daycare costs.[1:11:52]

Hosts' recommendations: detailed audit and possible income increase

George notes that on paper there should be significant margin since their mortgage is $1,500 out of about $6,400 take-home, suggesting "death by a thousand cuts" in the budget.[1:12:52]
Jade recommends going line by line through the budget and bank statements to examine all the "little odds and ends" that may be eating up margin.[1:12:28]
George suggests re-shopping insurance as one area where people often overspend for years without noticing.[1:14:00]
They also mention that if their lifestyle is high relative to income, there may be a need to increase income through raises, promotions, or more work hours to better fund goals like a newer van and extra mortgage payments.[1:14:13]

Caller Kevin: Moral obligation to dad's long-term girlfriend after inheritance

Family situation and estate distribution

Kevin's father lived with a girlfriend for just over 20 years; his father died unexpectedly two months ago without a will.[1:17:08]
By default, the estate is being split among Kevin, his brother, and his half-sister as legal heirs.[1:18:08]
The girlfriend's adult daughter (not related to Kevin by blood) is pressuring family members, particularly Kevin's youngest half-sister, to give up or split their inheritance share to support her mother.[1:17:52]

Housing arrangements and girlfriend's needs

Kevin had been renting a paid-for house owned by his grandmother; when his dad died and his dad's house had to be sold, Kevin moved his own family out of that house so his grandmother, dad's girlfriend, and others could live there.[1:21:07]
The girlfriend and several others (including her children) now live in that paid-for house, with rent from occupants covering property taxes.[1:20:52]
Historically, Kevin's father paid most expenses; the girlfriend mainly worked to provide health insurance, so she did not build much independent financial security.[1:20:52]

Hosts' moral and legal analysis

George notes that because there was no will, this is the result of poor estate planning and not formalizing the long-term relationship through marriage.[1:21:45]
He points out that under Pennsylvania law, the girlfriend has no legal claim as an unrelated person, and the assets legally belong to the children.[1:22:13]
Jade emphasizes that there was never a commitment via marriage, so there's no obligation to fulfill a financial "commitment" now.[1:24:27]
They both highlight that Kevin already made a significant sacrifice by vacating his own rental so the girlfriend and family wouldn't be displaced.[1:20:15]
George warns that if they give the girlfriend money now, it will likely open the door to repeated requests for more.[1:24:11]
They conclude Kevin and his siblings do not morally or legally owe the girlfriend part of the inheritance, while acknowledging Kevin may still feel guilt because of the emotional context.[1:23:59]

Caller Marcus: Considering whole life insurance as a personal bank

Marcus's plan and rationale

Marcus, age 39 and married with two kids (ages three and five), is a consultant who started consulting full-time a year ago.[1:27:49]
His wife is not working for income, focusing on their children.[1:27:52]
He is considering buying a whole life insurance policy in addition to term life, contributing around $10,000, not as an investment but as a way to access money between now and age 60 by borrowing against the policy.[1:27:22]
He says he wants a place to access his own funds for expenses like cars while still having them grow, separate from his long-term investments.[1:28:47]

Hosts' critique of whole life vs. simple tools

Jade and George ask why he wouldn't simply use a savings account or standard investment account for this purpose.[1:28:58]
They highlight that whole life policies are expensive, have poor rates of return, and primarily enrich the sellers.[1:29:04]
Jade contrasts putting $10,000 into a whole life policy versus investing it in an index fund or good growth stock mutual funds with expected higher returns.[1:30:30]
She points out that borrowing against your own policy means taking on debt to access your own money, which is unnecessarily complex and costly.[1:29:50]

Marcus's concerns about variable income and access

Marcus explains that as a consultant earning around $100,000 with variable income, he wants a vehicle to access funds as needed while still having them do "something" for him.[1:31:32]
He mentions having used zero-interest credit cards responsibly in the past and wonders if whole life could be a way to "bank" on himself.[1:32:26]
George argues that wealthy people already use savings as their personal bank and do not need to borrow from themselves with interest through an insurance product.[1:31:48]
He reiterates that only those who sell whole life promote it, and it is the most expensive, least efficient way to get liquidity or conservative growth.[1:32:26]
They recommend Marcus instead build a standard emergency fund in high-yield savings and use basic brokerage accounts for money he may need beyond a four- to five-year horizon.[1:31:48]
Marcus says he was exploring the idea and wanted to understand the objections; the hosts restate the three main problems: early-year losses, lower death benefit per dollar, and low returns.[1:32:26]

Caller Joe: Hawaii trip vs. Baby Step 2 intensity

Joe's desire to see family in Hawaii

Joe, a 30-year-old single man, is in Baby Step 2 and asks if he can take a trip to Hawaii at Christmas to visit his mom, nephews, and nieces.[1:37:51]
He estimates plane tickets around $700-$800 during that time and wants to cap the trip at about $1,000; he has been driving for a rideshare on the side to earn extra money while paying off about $23,000 in debt.[1:38:29]

Income, expenses, and past patterns

Joe earns about $90,000 as a quality engineer and brings home around $2,600 per paycheck across the year.[1:38:45]
His rent and utilities are about $1,500-$1,600 per month.[1:40:25]
He is on a budget and has been cutting spending, but admits he has struggled in recent months, sometimes giving in to temptations to go out with friends.[1:40:30]
He estimates he can earn $300-$500 per week from rideshare driving and hopes to have Baby Steps 2 and 3 done by May, definitely expecting to be out of debt by then.[1:39:17]

Hosts weigh intensity vs. relationship value

Jade is torn: she doesn't want Joe to spend Christmas alone, but worries about his pattern of getting "serious" about debt and then backing off when something fun appears.[1:40:34]
George notes that at age 30, Joe isn't obligated to go home every Christmas and suggests a compromise of spending Christmas with local friends if he skips the trip this year.[1:41:54]
They question whether Joe has missed Christmas with family before; he has visited them at other times and has seen the nieces and nephews recently.[1:41:15]

Challenge-based compromise

Jade proposes a condition: Joe can take the trip if he hits aggressive debt payoff goals between now and then, such as putting $5,000 on debt in November, $5,000 in December, and maybe another $2,000.[1:42:42]
She also suggests he target replacing his rent amount with side hustle income as a benchmark.[1:41:47]
George likes the compromise, wanting to see more intensity from Joe and warning against lukewarm effort while prioritizing travel.[1:42:41]

Debt-free scream: Jeff and Danielle pay off mortgage

Their debt-free journey overview

Jeff and Danielle from Tucson, Arizona, paid off $329,000 of debt over 12 years.[1:47:20]
Their income ranged from $155,000 at the beginning up to $327,000 in the last year.[1:47:43]
Jeff is a pilot for a major company; Danielle is an office manager for a concierge physician's office.[1:47:55]

Types of debt and life events

Of the $329,000, $33,000 was their truck (which they still own) and the rest was their house mortgage.[1:48:07]
Over the 12 years, they funded three kids through college debt-free (with scholarships and the kids' hard work) while continuing the baby steps.[1:48:26]
They had refinanced their home multiple times earlier in life as it appreciated, using equity to buy a rental property, vehicles, and a nice pool and yard, and later corrected course.[1:48:26]

Starting the plan and inheritance that finished it

Danielle first suggested the Ramsey plan about five years before they actually started; at that time she was a stay-at-home mom and Jeff resisted, suggesting they just "stop buying stuff."[1:48:42]
Five years later, Jeff brought the idea back to Danielle and they began in earnest, moving quickly through Baby Steps 2 and 3.[1:48:42]
They were on track to pay off the house by Jeff's 60th birthday about 1.5 years away, but Jeff's parents, both age 93, passed away in May and June, leaving them an inheritance.[1:50:01]
They used about $64,000 from the inheritance to finish off the mortgage early, while noting they were already close on their own plan.[1:50:07]

Current financial position and future plans

Their house is worth about $600,000, and their combined retirement and investments total about $1.7 million.[1:50:30]
They plan to celebrate by buying a newer camper around 2027 and traveling north in the hot Tucson summers, visiting states Jeff hasn't been to.[1:50:50]
Danielle plans to attend dog training school and do that work in retirement, while Jeff plans to build an airplane in their garage and be generous with future grandkids' education.[1:51:12]
They have led Financial Peace University groups with family, neighbors, and former coworkers at a government agency.[1:52:24]

Advice to others

They say the keys are keeping your "eye on the prize," giving yourself grace because life will bring bumps, and sticking with the plan because it works.[1:52:04]
Their adult children, who sometimes joked about or eye-rolled at the plan, now follow similar principles like buying used cars with cash.[1:48:03]

Caller James: Parents pushed into annuity and seeking second opinion

Parents' investments and advisor recommendation

James's parents invited him to their financial advisor meeting because they've heard him talk about Ramsey principles.[1:58:47]
They have about $475,000 in investments; roughly a third is already in an annuity fund, with cash value around $156,000 and a higher present value that will pay out about $10,000 per year in retirement.[1:59:09]
The advisor is recommending they move the entire portfolio into an annuity to provide guaranteed income through retirement.[2:00:02]

Hosts' concerns about annuities and current situation

George notes that annuities can make sense for very few people and are usually expensive, with advisors profiting heavily from them.[1:59:55]
He asks James how his parents are doing otherwise; they are in Baby Step 7 with a paid-for house and no debt.[2:00:57]
George explains different types of annuities (fixed, variable, indexed) and criticizes them for barely beating inflation or having high fees and complexity.[2:00:12]
He points out that the only people strongly advocating for annuities are those who sell them.[2:00:12]

Second opinion and caution

James says his parents were not very involved with their investments previously and had largely handed money to the advisor after inheriting from his grandmother.[2:01:55]
He has already suggested they get a second opinion from another advisor, and his mother is open to it.[2:02:11]
George encourages them to consult a different professional who aligns more with simple mutual-fund investing rather than pushing annuities, and to avoid changing investments they themselves don't fully understand.[2:03:05]

Caller Diane: How to count a pension in net worth

Diane's retirement picture

Diane is a retired police officer receiving a defined-benefit pension and now has a second career with a 401(k) where she is contributing 15%.[2:05:08]
She has been listening to the show and hears them ask callers their net worth; she understands assets minus liabilities but is unsure how to factor in her pension.[2:05:07]

Hosts' explanation on pensions and net worth

George says there are complex calculations to find the present or future value of a pension and online calculators can help, but net worth is only one indicator and doesn't capture everything.[2:05:25]
He suggests she could estimate the cash value via calculators or simply count what she has personally contributed as an asset.[2:05:30]
He emphasizes that the key question is whether her pension plus investments will let her retire with dignity, more than the exact net worth figure.[2:06:17]
Diane reports a net worth of about $640,000 without the pension and expects to work about five more years; George says if she can get to $1 million plus pension, she will be in excellent shape.[2:06:45]

Lessons Learned

Actionable insights and wisdom you can apply to your business, career, and personal life.

1

Before chasing growth opportunities or upgrades, secure a strong financial foundation with a written budget, emergency fund, and manageable fixed expenses so that life shocks and legal delays don't derail you.

Reflection Questions:

  • • What would happen to my current lifestyle and obligations if my income dropped suddenly or a major bill hit next month?
  • • How could tightening my core expenses and clarifying my budget this week increase my resilience over the next year?
  • • What specific step can I take in the next seven days to strengthen my financial foundation before I pursue any new opportunity or big purchase?
2

Debt framed as an "opportunity"-whether for business equipment, housing, or vehicles-often carries more risk and stress than the upside justifies, especially when layered on top of major life changes.

Reflection Questions:

  • • Where am I currently telling myself a debt-funded move is an 'opportunity' instead of honestly assessing its risks and obligations?
  • • How might my stress levels and decision-making improve if I delayed this leveraged decision until I could fund it with cash or much less debt?
  • • What alternative, slower growth paths could still get me to my goals without putting my family or future under intense financial pressure?
3

An emergency fund is not optional or replaceable by extra income or credit; it's a deliberate buffer that prevents crises from turning into new debt or forced liquidation of investments.

Reflection Questions:

  • • In the past five years, what kinds of emergencies have come up that would have been less stressful if I had 3-6 months of expenses saved?
  • • How would my choices about work, travel, and generosity change if I knew I had a fully funded emergency fund sitting in cash?
  • • What is one expense I can cut or one income source I can add this month to accelerate building (or rebuilding) my emergency fund?
4

Clarity and specificity-knowing exactly what you owe, what you own, and what your plan is-are prerequisites for getting out of paycheck-to-paycheck living and for making wise estate and inheritance decisions.

Reflection Questions:

  • • Which part of my financial picture (debts, assets, insurance, or estate documents) is currently the least clear to me, and why have I avoided looking at it?
  • • How might my daily stress change if I spent a few focused hours getting a complete list of my accounts, balances, and obligations?
  • • Who could I involve-a spouse, trusted friend, or professional-to review my current situation with me and help ensure I'm not missing key details?
5

Simple, transparent financial tools-like term life insurance and straightforward mutual fund investing-tend to beat complex products such as whole life policies and annuities that bundle insurance and investing with high fees.

Reflection Questions:

  • • Do I fully understand how each financial product I own makes money, what it costs me, and what risks it exposes me to?
  • • Where might I be paying for complexity or 'guarantees' that I don't actually need, instead of using simpler, cheaper alternatives?
  • • What is one policy or investment I can review this month with an independent advisor to confirm that it still makes sense for my goals?
6

Emotionally charged situations-like illness, grief, divorce, or neighborhood changes-require separating facts from feelings so you can make calculated trade-offs between money, safety, and peace of mind.

Reflection Questions:

  • • In a current stressful situation, what are the objective facts about the timeline, costs, and likely outcomes versus the fears I'm projecting?
  • • How could gathering real data (comps, legal opinions, medical timelines) change the way I frame the financial decision I'm facing?
  • • What trade-off between financial loss and personal peace am I actually willing to make, and how can I communicate that clearly to the people involved?
7

Side hustles and extra work can be powerful tools for debt payoff and savings, but they need to be aligned with your health, relationships, and a clear end date to prevent burnout.

Reflection Questions:

  • • How sustainable is my current work schedule over the next 12-24 months, given my health and family responsibilities?
  • • If I knew I only had to maintain 'gazelle intensity' for a defined period, how hard would I be willing to push and what boundaries would I set?
  • • What clear financial milestone (such as a debt balance or savings target) can I tie my extra work to so I know when to ramp up and when to scale back?

Episode Summary - Notes by Drew

It's Time To Stop Surviving And Start Winning With Money
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