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The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

Atheist vs Christian vs Spiritual Thinker: The Paperclip Problem That Exposes Religion!

Published September 29, 2025
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About This Episode

The host brings together three thinkers-an atheist/agnostic philosopher, a Christian apologist, and a Hindu-trained psychiatrist and spiritual practitioner-to explore why so many people today report a lack of meaning and purpose. They debate whether purpose is objective or purely subjective, how religion, spirituality, neuroscience, trauma, technology, and social conditions contribute to a "meaning crisis," and whether any worldview can adequately address deep suffering such as children dying of cancer. Alongside high-level philosophical disagreement, they also discuss concrete psychological tools and spiritual practices that can help individuals move from feeling lost to experiencing more direction and purpose in their own lives.

Topics Covered

Religion and spirituality Mental health Personal Development Trauma Psychedelic-assisted therapy Social media addiction Consciousness Philosophy of mind Suicide prevention Morality and ethics

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Quick Takeaways

  • Purpose has both a subjective, measurable psychological component and, depending on worldview, may or may not have an objective, transcendent basis.
  • Clinically, a sense of purpose can be increased through specific behaviors like taking active challenges, developing autonomy, building relationships, and reducing emotional numbness (alexithymia).
  • The Christian view presented ties ultimate meaning to a personal God, human rebellion (the Fall), and a restorative relationship with God, while the agnostic view treats meaning as a psychological response to mortality and finitude.
  • The Hindu-informed perspective introduces dharma and karma as frameworks for duty and cause-and-effect, emphasizing meaning-making and ego dissolution through spiritual practice.
  • All three guests agree that no one else can simply hand you meaning; individuals must walk their own path, though philosophy, therapy, and spiritual disciplines can offer real guidance.
  • Technology, especially constant exposure to conflicting worldviews via phones and social media, likely intensifies the modern sense of meaninglessness for many people.
  • Deep suffering-such as children dying of cancer and vast animal suffering-poses a serious explanatory challenge for religious accounts that claim a loving, purposeful creator.
  • Psychedelics and advanced meditation practices can evoke ego-dissolving, transcendent experiences, but they are not straightforward "proof" of any particular doctrine and carry risks.
  • A practical starting point for someone feeling lost is to make small, self-chosen commitments that stretch competence, reconnect with inner feelings, and increase genuine relatedness to others.

Podcast Notes

Framing the modern meaning and purpose crisis

Statistics about lack of purpose and mental health

Host cites surveys showing many young people report lacking purpose[0:00]
• Three in five young Americans believe their life lacks purpose
• Nine in ten young people in the UK report their life is lacking purpose
• Other statistics link poor mental health to not knowing what to do with one's life
Host notes gender differences and perceived meaning in older adults[3:02]
• In an older UK survey, 60% of older people felt they had lived a meaningful life vs 25% who did not
• Later survey: 34% of UK men said life had no meaning vs 18% of women

Rise in religiosity among young people

Host highlights increasing belief in God and church attendance in the UK among young adults[3:18]
• Belief in God among 18-24 year olds in the UK rose from 18% (2021) to 37% (2025), according to YouGov
• Monthly church attendance in the UK reportedly rose from 4% to 15% in 2025
Host suggests "something is going on" and wants to explore why meaning and religiosity are shifting[3:31]

Introductions and perspectives of the three guests

Alok's (Dr. K's) clinical and spiritual perspective

Background as a psychiatrist treating patients with suicidality and lack of purpose[3:09]
• He describes patients saying they have no reason to live and are suicidal
• He sees his job as practically helping them find purpose in 15-20 weeks
Combining evidence-based science with spiritual practices[4:20]
• He uses evidence-based scientific approaches to help people find purpose
• Notes that science has shortcomings and spiritual practices often add what science lacks
• Claims that combining science and spiritual practice "tends to work" with patients
Scaling his approach via a coaching program[4:59]
• After he began streaming, 10,000 people requested private practice slots in one month
• He created a coaching program and a pilot with 1,453 people over about 20 weeks
• Participants' self-reported sense of purpose increased by 68% if they stuck with the program
Definition of purpose and spiritual practice[6:06]
• Uses factor analysis: questions about direction, purpose, and meaning cluster into one internal construct
• Feeling in control of life correlates with sense of purpose
• He sees spiritual traditions as sets of practices that elicit subjective experiences which increase purpose
• Science can identify risk factors (e.g., no meaning is top risk for pornography addiction) but doesn't tell people how to move from point A to B experientially
Identifies as religious[7:46]

Greg's Christian theistic perspective

Defines himself as a Christian theist[8:10]
• He believes Christianity is the best explanation for the way things are
• Defines theistic as belief in a personal God who made and still actively maintains the world
• Contrasts theism with deism, where God winds up the clock and lets it go
States that God came to earth in the person of Jesus to create a rescue plan[8:37]
Objective purpose available even without conscious belief[9:10]
• If God made the world for a purpose, people can participate in that meaning even if they don't know God
• They can flourish to some extent by aligning with objective features of reality and God's intentions
• They miss the ultimate purpose, which he defines as friendship with God and flourishing according to God's plan

Alex's atheist/agnostic philosophical perspective

Background in and critique of New Atheism[9:44]
• He was swept up in the mid-2000s New Atheism movement (Dawkins, Hitchens, etc.)
• New Atheism portrayed religion as evil and promised a secular humanist utopia if people rejected religion
• He thinks that project failed because it was philosophically shallow and ignored the existential component of religious belief
Humans' unique predicament and death awareness[10:31]
• Humans seem uniquely aware of their embodiment, mortality, and existence
• Quotes Josh Rasmussen: difference between noticing a tree and noticing that you've noticed a tree
• Awareness of death can make a mockery of projects by rendering them ultimately futile
Immortality projects and religion[11:40]
• Suggests humans engage in "immortality projects" to deny death, like building things that outlast them
• Religions are archetypal immortality projects because they literally promise immortality of the soul
• People report meaning in children, work tied to larger systems like justice, or participation in something transcendent
Meaning crisis as human condition[12:50]
• Pushes back on idea that the meaning crisis is solely modern; argues it's essentially the human condition driven by finitude

Debating naturalism, God, and objective meaning

Defining naturalism and objective meaning

Greg defines naturalism as nature being all there is, with molecules in motion governed by natural law and no transcendent realities[13:31]
He claims consciousness and propositional thought cannot be reduced to molecules in motion[13:14]
States that either there is objective meaning or not; if not, it's up to us subjectively[13:42]

Paperclip AI thought experiment and God's purpose

Alex introduces a conscious AI made to produce paperclips[13:14]
• He imagines creating a conscious AI whose explicit programmed purpose is to make paperclips
• He questions whether merely being assigned a purpose by a creator makes that life meaningfully fulfilled
He applies the analogy to God assigning humans purpose[13:59]
• If God arbitrarily gives a particular meaning to human life, that seems vulnerable to arbitrariness
• If God is constrained by some external standard of meaning, then meaning exists outside God
Greg's response: human essence vs paperclip maker[14:31]
• He argues the paperclip example fails because it compares a conscious paperclip machine to humans with a different nature
• A creator can make a being for a purpose; fulfilling that purpose is success for that being, though paperclip-making would be dehumanizing for humans
• He claims God creating humans for friendship reflecting his loving character is not arbitrary

Clarifying the goals of the conversation and the search for purpose

Host's aims: diagnose and possibly solve aspects of the meaning crisis

Host wants to understand why we're seeing a mental health and purpose crisis and whether there is an objective truth about meaning[15:57]
Guests reflect on whether humanity can ever fully solve purpose collectively[20:40]
• Alex suggests the search for purpose will never go away at the human-species level, though individuals can find purpose

Search vs finding an answer

Greg warns against a nihilistic view that values only the search and says if you think you've found the answer you must be wrong[19:28]
• He believes it's possible to come to real conclusions about ultimate meaning and purpose
Alex emphasizes that meaningful spiritual realization cannot be simply transmitted by a guru[19:59]
• He references the Buddhist koan "If you meet the Buddha, kill him" to suggest enlightenment must be realized personally

Psychological mechanisms of purpose: Alok's framework

Purpose as quantifiable and gradated

Alok views purpose not as binary but as a quantifiable internal scale[20:20]
• He informally asks each person to rate their confidence in their purpose; Greg says near 10/10 in terms of doing what God wants
• Host estimates himself at 5/10
• Alex resists the grammar of the question, pointing out it presupposes a purpose to know
Emphasis on subjective barometer and neurobiology[26:29]
• He stresses that something in the mind, heart, and body generates the felt sense of purpose
• Trauma can literally damage neural systems that detect meaning and purpose
• He gives an example of a patient attacked in a bathroom whose entire life compass was shattered in five minutes

Active vs passive challenges and control

Defines passive challenges as problems life imposes and active challenges as chosen difficulties[32:54]
• Examples of passive challenges: boss demands, rent, unresponsive dating apps
• People overwhelmed by passive challenges often try to escape them, seeking freedom but losing control
Improving purpose by increasing active challenges[33:56]
• Research on anxiety shows sense of control is linked to ratio of active to passive challenges, not just volume of challenges
• Counterintuitively, solution to feeling overwhelmed is to take on more self-chosen difficult tasks, not fewer
• As people increase active challenges, their sense of control grows, improving capacity to handle life's imposed problems

Self-determination theory and components of purpose

Purpose correlates with autonomy, competence, and relatedness[36:14]
• He references self-determination theory: purposeful people report self-direction, stretching of competence, and a sense of relatedness
• Purpose is less about picking the "right" choice and more about making choices at all
• Relatedness involves knowing oneself and having others truly see that part of you

Freedom, technology, and the modern meaning crisis

Host's examples of friends lacking purpose

Friend in Dubai who became Christian[37:26]
• Male friend mid-30s, single freelancer, lives and works in a small glass box apartment in Dubai
• He felt unable to get out of bed and stuck; later secretly flew to America, was baptized as a Christian, and returned with strong purpose and a transformed demeanor
Female friend whose purpose is plants but feels lost[37:50]
• She works freelance from home, names and waters her many plants, and set a goal of 200 plants
• Despite this, she went into therapy reporting feeling lost and stuck
Host's hypothesis about freedom and independence[37:58]
• He suspects that freedom, independence, "be your own boss," and fewer people having children may be failing people
• He once embraced New Atheism and staunch atheism, but now feels curious again as independence seems not to have been the answer

Pascal's gambler and the need for tasks

Alex uses Pascal's thought experiment about boredom and gambling[39:38]
• If you enjoy gambling to win money, giving you money without the game doesn't satisfy
• If you play a game you can never win, without any payoff, that is also unsatisfying
• He concludes meaning requires a task you haven't fulfilled yet, with uncertain outcome, believed to bring fulfillment
Modern comfort and self-imposed difficulty[40:34]
• Historically, humans had to hunt and secure necessities daily, which likely provided clear purpose
• Now we "have the money without the game" via stable housing and easy access to food and water
• People respond by seeking the game without the money-doing ice baths, gym workouts, and intentional difficulty to regain meaning

Telecommunication, pluralism, and meaning crisis

Alex links social media exposure to meaning crisis[42:53]
• He suggests constant, often non-consensual exposure to diverse worldviews via phones undermines people's sense of their own transcendence and truth
• Scrolling endlessly confronts people with many others living happily under totally different beliefs, which can make one's own truth feel subjective
• He argues this telecommunication shift, not just atheism, is central to today's meaning struggles

Objective truth, psychological explanations, and the genetic fallacy

Separating motivation/psychology from truth

Greg warns against conflating psychological motivation with justification (genetic fallacy)[45:20]
• Example: being Christian because you were born in America doesn't bear on whether Christianity is true
• He says fear of death can motivate belief in an afterlife, but motivation doesn't determine truth
Alex agrees psychological explanation is orthogonal to truth[52:00]
• He insists explaining why people feel a lack of meaning is a psychological question, not automatically a truth question about worldviews
• He notes that a worldview can be true yet depressing, or false yet comforting; psychological impact doesn't prove or disprove it

Suffering, karma, and the problem of evil

Greg's Christian account: Fall and broken world

He attributes human proclivity to evil to an original human rebellion against God (the Fall)[1:35:50]
• He believes there was an original progenitor (Adam and Eve) bearing God's image who violated God's commands
• This rebellion broke relationships with God, with each other, and with the environment, leading to a "broken" world
• He admits he has not fully worked out details like how tsunamis, earthquakes, and non-human suffering fit this schema

Alex's challenge: children with cancer and pre-human suffering

Alex questions whether such explanations comfort grieving parents[1:37:18]
• He argues telling parents their child has cancer because of ancient human sin or mythical beings is unlikely to offer real consolation
He contrasts expectations under accidental evolution vs a loving, purposeful creator[1:39:08]
• If we are accidental organisms in a struggle for survival, the vast suffering we see is expected
• If we are created by a loving God who wants communion with us, it's harder to explain gratuitous suffering, including massive animal pain before humans existed

Alok's re-framing of karma and meaning-making

He rejects "you deserved it" interpretations of karma[2:02:54]
• He recounts a meditator friend who rejects any religion that says rape is the victim's fault, showing his discomfort with simplistic karma blame
• Based on clinical work, he emphasizes helping people who experienced abuse or trauma make meaning as part of healing
Defines karma as cause and effect, not moral desert[2:05:58]
• He says karma is just action and reaction, akin to Newton's third law
• Example: a child dies of cancer because of cancer's physiological causes (e.g., mutations), not as moral punishment
• He insists that while karma can be used within meaning-making, it should be denuded of notions of "deserving" in a moral sense

Consciousness, panpsychism, and spiritual experience

Alex's panpsychist-leaning view of consciousness

He is attracted to panpsychism: consciousness as fundamental or ubiquitous[2:24:24]
• He suggests the basic stuff of the universe may have mental properties; scientists cannot say what matter ultimately is
Brain as filter or focuser of consciousness[2:26:47]
• He cites Aldous Huxley's idea that psychedelics open the mind, implying the brain normally closes or focuses consciousness
• Notes that brain imaging shows decreased brain activity when people take psychedelics, even as their subjective experience expands
• He infers that brains may inhibit and organize pre-existing consciousness rather than generate it from scratch

Ineffability of spiritual experience across traditions

Alex references Christian mystics who found language inadequate[2:36:08]
• He recounts Blaise Pascal's "night of fire" and the note contrasting the experiential God of Abraham with the abstract God of philosophers
• He notes Thomas Aquinas stopped writing the Summa Theologica after a Eucharistic experience, saying his writings were like straw compared to what he had seen
• He concludes that those who claim to have truly encountered God often say the experience can't be fully conveyed in words

Alok on advanced meditation, chakras, and intuition

He describes chakra-based meditation as targeting specific psychological functions[2:49:09]
• Muladhara (root) chakra practices are used to work with primal impulses and impulse control (e.g., addiction)
• Heart (anahata) chakra meditations have been studied in small trials and may outperform generic meditation for depression
Ajna (third-eye) practices and intuition[2:49:31]
• He says he learned Ajna chakra practices focused on understanding, which he links to his intuitive sense about people
• He characterizes his clinical intuition as information he "receives" rather than something he can willfully activate
• He admits this is undefensible scientifically and could be cold reading, but it's his lived experience
He refuses to describe his deepest meditative experiences[2:39:16]
• He declines to answer whether he has had specific transcendental experiences, saying the "cost to his shakti" would be too high
• He argues describing them would inflate his ego and give others conceptual maps without experience, which he sees as counterproductive

Practical advice for individuals feeling lost

Alex's advice to seekers

Don't look for a guru with all the answers[2:52:54]
• He warns against thinking someone on a podcast can give a five-step guide that resolves meaning once and for all
• He suggests listening to people who are clearly also searching, not claiming final enlightenment
Experiment with philosophy, psychedelics, and consciousness exploration (cautiously)[2:53:27]
• He is personally exploring philosophy of mind and consciousness as promising avenues
• He sometimes recommends psychedelics in the right set and setting for suitable individuals but advises against them for others

Alok's concrete steps for someone stuck

Step 1: Reconnect with feelings by reducing emotional numbing[3:06:43]
• He emphasizes many people design lives around running away from bad feelings using phones or other distractions
• He identifies alexithymia-difficulty identifying feelings-as a major barrier to feeling purpose
Step 2: Work on ego and identity[3:07:59]
• He suggests dissolving parts of the ego, noticing "I am..." labels (doctor, loser, incel, etc.) that constrain purpose
• Overactive default mode networks (self-focus) correlate with depression and existential pessimism
Step 3: Build a narrative identity[3:07:59]
• Purpose presupposes a temporal narrative-moving from A to Z-so people need a story that connects key emotional events
• He uses the example of failing out of pre-med and later returning to medicine as experiences that shaped his current identity and work
Step 4: Make small, self-chosen, stretching commitments and connect with others[5:14:48]
• He advises making a concrete choice each day, stretching capacity, and fostering genuine connection with at least one other person
• He suggests if psychological methods are not enough, adding spiritual practice or attending a religious service as another lever

Greg's simple experiential suggestion

Prayer as an honest experiment[5:16:41]
• He recommends a simple prayer: "God, if you're real in the way I've heard, I want to know it. Show yourself to me."
• He shares that he prayed such a prayer in 1973 while in the army and later developed a deep conviction of Christianity being true
• He reports no dramatic signs, but says things began to become more obvious and he gained a deep awareness of truth

Host's self-reflection and differing levels of contentment

Host contrasts his contentment with Alex's

He says he often can't wait to wake up and get back to life[2:55:04]
• He describes feeling very happy and driven, annoyed he has to sleep because it delays getting back to life
He sees meaning in ongoing projects and learning rather than in a final answer[2:56:10]
• He enjoys the act of learning-e.g., watching videos about robots or philosophy-for its own sake
• He relates to the person who writes the book even if the world ends shortly after, because the writing itself is enjoyable

Greg's nuance on happiness vs foundational meaning

He distinguishes daily emotional states from deep foundation[5:01:45]
• He admits his life includes dissatisfaction and fallenness despite confidence in Christianity
• He cites Jesus's saying "In this world you will have tribulation" but also encouragement that Jesus has overcome the world

Closing reflections on big answers vs small changes

Alex warns against simplistic packages of meaning

He criticizes promises that Stoicism, Christianity, or any system in five steps will fix life, without engaging their full metaphysics[5:22:11]
He reiterates that even true systems can't simply be handed over; they must be lived[5:22:11]

Alok's encouragement: big problems don't always need big moves

He observes that small shifts can transform long-standing problems like addiction or purposelessness[5:23:40]
• He uses his daughter closing a misaligned box lid as a metaphor: it's not about force, but correct orientation
• He emphasizes that understanding how things work and making small, well-oriented changes can have outsized impact

Greg reiterates need to discern whether there is an ultimate purpose

He repeats that meaning precedes purpose: one must know who and what humans are for before assigning life tasks[5:26:50]
• If there's no grand purpose, then individual aims are just personal desires; if there is, discovering it is paramount

Lessons Learned

Actionable insights and wisdom you can apply to your business, career, and personal life.

1

A felt sense of purpose is not binary but can be increased by specific behaviors that enhance autonomy, stretch your competence, and deepen your relatedness to others.

Reflection Questions:

  • • Which parts of your daily life currently feel self-chosen versus imposed, and how does that affect your sense of direction?
  • • How could you introduce one small, challenging project this month that pushes your skills just beyond their current level?
  • • Who in your life truly sees the "real you," and what concrete step could you take this week to strengthen that kind of connection?
2

Actively choosing difficult tasks (active challenges) rather than only reacting to life's pressures (passive challenges) can restore a sense of control and, with it, a stronger sense of purpose.

Reflection Questions:

  • • Where do you currently feel most overwhelmed by problems you didn't choose, and how are you typically responding to them?
  • • In what area of your life could you deliberately take on a challenging, self-chosen goal that would shift you from feeling pushed to feeling proactive?
  • • What is one small but meaningful difficulty you could voluntarily embrace this week to build your capacity for handling larger stresses?
3

Psychological comfort or a powerful emotional experience (religious or otherwise) is evidence that something works for you subjectively, but it does not by itself establish the objective truth of the underlying beliefs.

Reflection Questions:

  • • What beliefs in your life make you feel good, and have you ever examined how much you're equating that feeling with those beliefs being true?
  • • How might separating "this helps me cope" from "this is actually true" change the way you evaluate worldviews, ideologies, or advice?
  • • What is one belief you hold strongly that you could subject to more rigorous scrutiny without immediately tying it to your emotional security?
4

Technology and constant exposure to conflicting worldviews can erode your sense of meaning; intentionally limiting distraction and reconnecting with your inner emotional landscape is essential for regaining direction.

Reflection Questions:

  • • How often do you reach for your phone to escape uncomfortable feelings rather than to intentionally do something specific?
  • • What would it look like to set aside a short, non-negotiable period each day where you sit with your thoughts and feelings without distraction?
  • • Which digital inputs (accounts, apps, or habits) most reliably leave you feeling more confused or unmoored, and what concrete boundary could you set around one of them this week?
5

Making sense of suffering often requires personal meaning-making rather than ready-made explanations; simplistic attributions (whether "karma" or "God's plan") can harm more than they help if they bypass the individual's process.

Reflection Questions:

  • • When you think about a painful event in your life, what story have you been telling yourself about why it happened and what it means?
  • • How might you begin to reinterpret that event in a way that acknowledges both the harm and the strengths or insights it has forced you to develop?
  • • Who could you speak with-therapist, mentor, trusted friend-to help you explore more constructive meanings around a past trauma or loss?
6

No one can walk your path to meaning for you; philosophy, therapy, religion, and spiritual practices can offer maps, but you still have to do the experiential work yourself.

Reflection Questions:

  • • Where in your life are you currently waiting for an "expert" or guru to tell you what to do instead of experimenting and learning directly?
  • • How could you treat the next month as a personal exploration-trying one practice (philosophical reading, journaling, meditation, prayer, or therapy) with the explicit goal of seeing how it affects your inner life?
  • • What is one small, concrete commitment you could make today that signals you are taking responsibility for your own search rather than outsourcing it?

Episode Summary - Notes by Alex

Atheist vs Christian vs Spiritual Thinker: The Paperclip Problem That Exposes Religion!
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