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The Tim Ferriss Show

#837: How to Simplify Your Life in 2026 - New Tips from Derek Sivers, Seth Godin, and Martha Beck

with Derek Sivers, Seth Godin, Martha Beck

Published November 26, 2025
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About This Episode

Tim Ferriss departs from his usual long-form interview format to explore how a few key decisions can dramatically simplify life in the coming year. He frames the episode with the idea of finding single choices that eliminate hundreds of downstream decisions, drawing on lessons from past guests and management thinkers. Derek Sivers, Seth Godin, and Martha Beck each share specific philosophies and concrete personal rules they've used to reduce complexity, set boundaries, and orient their lives around simplicity, focus, and deep joy.

Topics Covered

Lifestyle design Personal development Identity Happiness Change and loss Relationships Work ethic Mental health Goal setting Religion and spirituality

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Quick Takeaways

  • Tim Ferriss centers the episode on the idea of making one to three high-leverage decisions that can eliminate hundreds of smaller decisions and significantly simplify the coming year.
  • Derek Sivers defines simplicity as the absence of intertwined dependencies, leading him to eliminate subscriptions, employees, and most obligations while even building an off-grid home from scratch.
  • Seth Godin advocates for radical clarity about who your work is for, strict adherence to budgets and deadlines, and clear yes/no commitments to remove gray areas that create complexity.
  • Seth also simplifies by refusing certain activities-like most meetings, social media, and television alone-thereby putting himself "on the hook" to excel at the focused work he chooses.
  • Martha Beck describes a life-changing decision at age 29 to follow the felt experience of deep, quiet joy above all else, using bodily signals of relaxation and freedom as her compass.
  • Martha's commitment to joy led her to leave a rigid religion, her family of origin, her marriage, her job, and other draining structures, which ultimately brought her peace, health improvements, and work she loves.
  • All three guests emphasize that choosing simplicity is often harder in the short term, but yields long-term benefits in peace of mind, self-reliance, and meaningful contribution.
  • The episode repeatedly highlights that complexity often accumulates drip by drip through unexamined commitments, and that intentional rules and boundaries are necessary to reverse it.

Podcast Notes

Introduction: Tim Ferriss on simplifying life and high-leverage decisions

Tim describes the recurring problem of complexity creeping back into life

Feeling like we are drowning in invisible complexity as a new year approaches[0:19]
• Tim includes himself in this feeling, noting that he too experiences the sense of drowning in complexity.
Analogy to going to the gym: simplification must be ongoing[0:34]
• You cannot go to the gym once and be done; similarly, you must constantly refine and revert to "simplify, simplify, simplify."

Tim pauses long-form interviews to focus on one big simplifying question

Key question for the coming year: one to three decisions that would dramatically simplify life in 2026[0:50]
• Tim specifies the time frame as "this upcoming year" and mentions January as the hoped-for time to make such decisions.

Introduction of guest contributors and their angles on simplification

Derek Sivers: living from first principles instead of default settings[1:12]
• Tim says listeners will learn how Derek uses a radical approach to living from first principles rather than default settings.
Seth Godin: using a few hard rules to simplify professional life and focus on best work[1:17]
• Tim frames Seth's contribution as showing how a handful of hard rules can turn a messy professional life into something simple and focused.
Martha Beck: radical commitment leading to a simpler life built on peace and meaning[1:26]
• Tim explains that Martha's radical commitment forced her through growing pains but led to a much simpler life centered on peace and meaning.

Tim's prior work on simplifying via single, decisive choices

Learning from Greg McKeown and Jim Collins about high-leverage decisions[1:50]
• Tim says that in 2020 he used a guiding tenet he "learned, really polished" from Greg McKeown (author of "Essentialism") and Jim Collins (author of many bestsellers).
Principle: look for single decisions that remove hundreds or thousands of other decisions[1:56]
• Tim calls this one of the most important lessons Jim Collins learned from Peter Drucker.
• He quotes Jim quoting Drucker: "Don't make a hundred decisions when one will do."
Understanding that many seemingly different decisions may actually be one category of decision[2:26]
• Tim recounts Jim's explanation that many decisions that look different are often part of the same category of decision when you strip them away.

Tim's personal applications of radical simplification

Startup vacation/retirement from 2015 to 2018[2:43]
• During this period, Tim asked himself across the board what he could categorically and completely remove, even temporarily.
• His goal was to create space to see the bigger picture, explore, and find gems.
Decision to do no public speaking for years at a time[3:01]
• Tim cites this as one area where he applied the principle of single decisions removing many downstream choices.
Decision in 2020 to read no new books whatsoever, later extended indefinitely[3:09]
• He notes that this decision solved what had appeared to be maybe a dozen disparate, time-consuming problems.

Derek Sivers on simplicity as reduced dependencies and radical minimalism

Reframing simplicity versus ease

Most people want an easy life, not a simple life[4:06]
• Derek opens by saying he is fascinated with the implications of simplicity and asserts that a simple life can be hard.
Etymology of simple and complex[4:20]
• He explains that "simple" comes from "simplex," the opposite of "complex."
• He notes that "complex" comes from the verb "complex," meaning to intertwine.

Defining complexity as intertwined dependencies

Complex life as one intertwined with dependencies[4:34]
• Your life is complex when it is intertwined with dependencies-when you are depending on things and things are depending on you.
Simple life as one with fewer dependencies[4:44]
• He says your life is simple when it is not complex and not intertwined with other things, which means depending on life less.

How life becomes complex quickly through commitments

Ease of adding commitments that increase complexity[5:22]
• Derek points out how easy it is to make life complex: just say "sign me up," click "buy now," or say "you're hired."
• These actions may make life feel easier in the moment but objectively make it more complex.

The hard work of untangling complexity

Untangling requires quitting and breaking ties[5:14]
• He lists actions like quitting, firing, unsubscribing, uninstalling, disconnecting, breaking ties, breaking commitments, and getting rid of many possessions.
Letting go of identity and the "Superman" self-image[5:37]
• He says the hardest part is letting go of big parts of your identity, including the Superman self-image.
• It means admitting you cannot do it all and that you will disappoint people who depend on you.
Saying no to almost everything[5:47]
• Derek describes the resulting "sad mantra" as a series of nos: "No, no, no. Nope. Sorry. No. Nope."

Balancing entanglements and joy

Recognizing that entanglements can also be sources of joy[6:04]
• He acknowledges that perhaps your deepest joy comes from your entanglements-friends, services, subscriptions, assistants, pets, and tools that make life easier.
Multiple life aspects and reluctance to give them up[6:29]
• Derek notes that many people have a career, spouse, child, hobby, pet, and home, and doubts that someone would want to get rid of all but one of those.

Simplifying within each identity by keeping them separate

Being temporarily simple within each life aspect[6:57]
• He suggests untangling different aspects of life and keeping them separate, giving each full attention while making the rest disappear.
Example of focused presence with his son[6:43]
• When Derek is with his boy, his phone is off, he is unreachable, and if he thinks of anything else, he lets it go like in meditation and brings his full attention back.
Phone as the enemy of separateness[7:02]
• He calls the phone the enemy of temporary simplicity because it intertwines everything.

Major simplification #1: No subscriptions and minimal obligations

Elimination of recurring subscriptions and memberships[7:20]
• Derek says he has no Spotify, no Netflix, no memberships, and no monthly obligations.
Avoiding long-term financial and organizational ties[8:08]
• He notes that he has no mortgage, no employees, no team, no publisher, no contracts, and nobody depending on him except his son.
• He adds that "we all draw the line somewhere" to acknowledge that his son is an exception to his no-dependency rule.

Major simplification #2: Dependency-free programming

Writing code with no external dependencies[7:48]
• Derek explains that he simplified his computer code so it has no dependencies and no external libraries.
Test of importance: code it yourself or do without[8:03]
• If something really matters to him, he codes it himself; if he does not want to code it, he concludes it must not be that important and does without it.
Short-term difficulty versus long-term simplicity[8:08]
• He says it is harder up front to make what he needs, but long term it makes everything simpler, easier to understand, maintain, and change.
• He emphasizes that long-term it feels better and that feelings matter.

Major simplification #3: Building a house from scratch to test needs

Dissatisfaction with existing houses full of unnecessary things[8:36]
• Derek says he did not like living in existing houses full of "shit" he did not need.
Buying off-grid land in New Zealand and living in a tiny cabin[8:40]
• He bought off-grid land in a forest in New Zealand and began living full-time in a tiny cabin there with his son to see what they really need.
Questioning the necessity of every element of a home[8:54]
• Starting from scratch made him ask, "Do I really need lights?" "Do I really need curtains?" "Do I really need a kitchen?" "Do I really need an indoor bathroom?"
• Instead of assuming he needed these things, he tried living without them in practice, using "no by default" and a reluctant yes only when necessary.

Trade-offs: less comfort, less complexity, and the hermit crab analogy

Long-term benefits of saying no in books and life[9:30]
• Derek mentions that in all three of his books, life would have been easier up front if he had said yes instead of no, but long term his life is simpler without those yeses.
Fewer comforts but reduced obligations and easier change[9:44]
• He summarizes the trade-off as less comfort but less complexity, fewer dependencies and obligations, less to maintain, and easier ability to change.
Hermit crab metaphor for growth and non-attachment[9:46]
• Derek compares himself to a hermit crab: the less you are bound to, the easier it is to grow.
Deep-happy versus shallow-happy and long-term thinking[9:57]
• He contrasts thinking long-term versus short-term and "deep-happy" versus "shallow-happy," saying it makes him deeply happy to shed comforts for a simple life, code, and home.
• He concludes that it is easy at first to make life complex but it becomes a long-term trap, whereas making life simple is hard at first but yields deeper, long-term benefits in peace of mind, self-reliance, control, and freedom to change.

Seth Godin on rules, boundaries, and simplifying professional and personal life

Recognizing that leveraging agency and changing systems is not easy

Acknowledging difficulty as a starting point[11:08]
• Seth says that if we are going to leverage our agency, take advantage of our freedom, and change systems, it helps to begin by acknowledging that it is not easy.

Clarity about what the work is for and who it is for

Start with who the work is for[11:29]
• Seth emphasizes real clarity about what the work is for and particularly who it is for, insisting we should start with the "who."
Examples of misaligned expectations[11:20]
• If you are trying to make the stock price go up, then do that, but do not expect the kid down the street to be impressed with your job.
• If you write in English for English speakers, you should not be upset if someone who speaks Italian cannot read what you wrote.
Make hard choices about who it is for and ignore everyone else[12:05]
• He urges making difficult choices about who the work is for and then ignoring everyone else.
Interpreting one-star reviews as a sign of misfit, not failure[12:10]
• A one-star review on Amazon tells you nothing about how good the book is; it tells you only that the book was not for that reviewer.
• He says there is no reason to read such reviews if those readers are not in your "who it's for" list.

Reducing gray areas through budgets and deadlines

Gray areas force constant analysis and complication[12:45]
• Seth notes that when there are gray areas-left or right, up or down, a bit more or less-things get complicated because we must constantly analyze.
Rule: never go over budget and never miss a deadline[13:07]
• He says to choose to be a professional who never goes over budget and never misses a deadline.
• When you run out of money or run out of time, you are done; you do not wheedle, plead, negotiate, or rob Peter to pay Paul.
• Accepting a budget and deadline under this code makes you more focused because you know you will not break them.

Clear yeses and nos to avoid waffling

Make your yes mean yes and your no mean no[13:43]
• Seth advocates that yeses and nos should be clear: "Make your yes mean yes. Make your no mean no."
Say no clearly and quickly without offense[13:48]
• He suggests saying no quite clearly, without offending people, and getting it over with: "No. I won't be able to do that."
Clarity in commitments creates simplicity and leverage[14:11]
• He acknowledges that it is easier to waffle and see what happens, but insists that clarity in yes/no makes life simpler and creates leverage.

Minimizing meetings in favor of clear written communication

Rule: do not go to a meeting if a memo will suffice[14:23]
• Seth calls this a tiny rule: don't go to a meeting if a memo will suffice.
Meetings as a source of unnecessary complexity[14:41]
• He says that in big organizations this can save 30 hours a week, and even for soloists it forces clarity.
• He distinguishes between conversations, which he favors, and meetings, which he says almost always make things complicated.

Personal time boundaries and limiting work-related overextension

Deciding when you are on the hook for work[14:56]
• Seth describes personal time boundaries as a version of budgets and deadlines: making a promise to yourself about when you are on the hook for work and when you are not.
You cannot shortcut success by overworking[15:02]
• He argues you cannot shortcut your way to success by spending more time than everyone else and that you will run out of time anyway.

Specific personal rules: media, reviews, gigs, and narrative consistency

No social media unless it serves the project[15:13]
• Seth states he does not use social media unless it serves the project.
Selective reading of reviews[15:15]
• He only reads reviews if he is going to use them to make his work actually better.
Avoiding gigs where he cannot do a good job and be happy[15:25]
• He advises not taking a gig where you cannot do a good job and be happy about doing it.
Telling the same story to everyone[15:28]
• Seth recommends telling the same story to everyone, saying it makes it easier to keep life organized and simple.

Resisting systems that complicate work and life

We have enough capacity; systems make things complicated[15:46]
• He observes that we have plenty of horsepower, ideas, and energy to do extraordinary work, but systems make things complicated.
Simplicity puts you on the hook to deliver[15:59]
• By making things simple, you put yourself on the hook to show up, do what you said you would do, and do it with grace and care.
• He frames the goal as doing work that matters for people who care.

How complexity accumulates drip by drip and the choice to simplify

No one signs up for a complicated life[16:10]
• Seth notes that nobody signs up for a complicated life or to waste time in a swamp of complications; we get there drip by drip, compromise by compromise.
Playing it safe and being vague increases complexity[16:30]
• He says we arrive at complication by trying to play it safe and spreading things out instead of being specific.

Eliminating certain activities to free time and raise the stakes

Refusal to attend meetings, watch TV alone, or use Facebook/Twitter[16:47]
• Seth shares specific examples: he does not go to meetings, does not watch television on his own, and does not look at Facebook or Twitter.
Simplifying forces greater excellence in what remains[17:03]
• He observes that getting rid of these activities would free up many hours a day and make life simpler, but would also raise the stakes because you must get great at the remaining commitments.

Business school decision to never do spreadsheets

Understanding professors' needs and simplifying his approach[17:24]
• At business school, Seth noticed that cases had prose and spreadsheets, and professors needed students to provide useful feedback to keep discussions going.
Rule: no spreadsheet analysis, focus only on prose insights[17:21]
• He decided on the first day to simplify his life by never doing a spreadsheet; if asked for numerical analysis, he would say he did not have one.
• He reasoned that professors could embarrass him but it would break the class flow, so he focused on offering prose insights that would be referenced later in discussion.
• By focusing on prose and simplifying, he put himself on the hook and it became part of what he stood for.

Professional rules for book projects and speaking to stay simple

Never missing deadlines or going over budget on book projects[18:29]
• Seth built a reputation for offbeat book projects while also asserting he would never miss a deadline or go over budget, which made his life simpler but scarier.
Standardized speaking rider and tech setup[19:12]
• He has a very specific rider for his presentations, does not change the rules, and avoids discussions about multiple format options.
• He will not work in the round because audience members do not appreciate seeing a speaker's back half the time.
• He always uses the same tech setup, not because he dislikes new ideas, but because simplifying one aspect allows other aspects to become richer and more complicated.

Martha Beck on following joy, radical life changes, and enduring peace

Decision to follow the experience of joy above all other factors

Roles and the one decision that simplified her life[22:23]
• Martha introduces herself as an author, coach, podcaster, and mom, and describes one decision that radically simplified her life.
Choosing joy as the primary criterion for decisions[22:44]
• At age 29, she decided to follow the experience of joy above all other factors or considerations.

Distinguishing deep joy from dopamine-driven highs

Why not all positive feelings count as joy[22:51]
• Martha explains that we can feel happy or up when manic, on drugs, or buying things, but these are typically dopamine jolts that create cravings.
• She notes that we often have to do more and more to feel as happy as the first time, which she calls not really functional.
Defining joy as a quiet, full-system release[23:23]
• Joy, as she describes it, is a quiet release that resonates through every aspect of the nervous system.
• When we connect with it, all our muscles relax, which she says cannot be faked.
• She notes that thinking of someone you love can cause your muscles to relax as long as there is no argument.
• Joy also often involves deeper breathing, especially exhaling with a sigh of relief, and spontaneous smiling even when no one is watching.
• She summarizes it as a physical and emotional sense of freedom.

Using the sensation of joy as a simple navigation system

Simple rule: go toward joy, away from misery, no matter what[24:20]
• Martha states her rule: if it feels like true joy, go toward it; if it feels like misery and pain, go away from it, "no matter what."
Warmer/colder game as a metaphor for life choices[24:44]
• She compares following joy to playing "you're getting warmer, you're getting cooler," where more joy means warmer and more tension means cooler.
Joy as a guide even when things are daunting or frightening[25:51]
• She notes that even when something felt daunting or frightening, the joy-based approach made the way forward clear and simple.
Learning to detect even a trace of joy[25:02]
• She says with practice, if you can feel any trace of joy in body, heart, mind, or soul, it becomes distinct enough to use as a "warmer/colder" measurement.

Impact of joy-based choices on relationships and life structure

Changing or leaving relationships that did not feel like joy[25:31]
• Martha says she began breaking the rules of many relationships that did not feel like joy, either backing off or changing her behavior until she felt joy.
Many people dropped out of her life[25:42]
• She notes that a lot of people dropped away from her life as a result of this shift.
Emergence of strength, clarity, and remission of illnesses[26:10]
• After living this way for a while, she felt stronger, clearer, and more at peace than ever before.
• She had a cluster of autoimmune illnesses with no cure that all went into remission.
Others observed her "amazing luck" and benevolent circumstances[26:18]
• People noticed she seemed to have amazing luck and was always in situations that were benevolent or beneficent to her.

Turning her personal credo into a coaching framework

Explaining the simple instructions to others[27:53]
• She began talking to people about why her life had changed and this evolved into coaching, where she shared instructions like: do more of what feels great and feeds your soul, and less of what always drains you.
Emphasis on how obvious but underused this principle is[27:22]
• Martha stresses that this is not rocket science and repeats it for clarity, expressing amazement that people are amazed by such a simple rule.
Cultural pressures push people away from joy[27:51]
• She notes that people can get caught in culture and pressured into doing things that do not bring them joy.
Building an entire career around teaching this approach[28:03]
• To her astonishment, she made a career out of teaching people this simple but radically honest approach to life.

Origin story: near-death-like experience and commitment to joy

Surgical experience at age 29 and the appearance of a bright light[28:22]
• During surgery at 29, she had a near-death-like experience in which a bright light appeared.
• She is unsure if it was her brain or a mystical being but says its presence filled her with joy unlike anything she remembered.
The message she received: live in a way that feels like that joy[28:48]
• The light seemed to communicate that her entire task in life was to live in a way that felt like she felt in that moment.
Total, irreversible commitment to joy[28:52]
• She made a sudden total commitment to joy and says she never went back on it.

Massive life changes and emotional experience that followed

Leaving her culture and dogmatic religion[29:10]
• Martha had grown up in a very deeply dogmatic religion, which she left after this commitment.
Severing ties with family of origin, marriage, career, and home[29:15]
• Her family of origin stopped talking to her, and she eventually left her marriage, job, career, and the house she was living in.
• She says that pretty much everything that gave her identity but created harm or exhaustion left with astonishing speed.
Feeling grief and fear overlaid on bedrock peace[29:36]
• She experienced grief and fear as these changes occurred, but those emotions were overlaid on a bedrock of peace.
• She believes this peace came from the deepest part of her beginning to trust that she would take care of it.

Difficulty of keeping the promise and the ease of truthful living

Hardest part: facing others' disapproval and judgment[29:45]
• Martha says the hardest part was keeping her promise in relationships with others who did not approve and facing their judgment.
Life became easier overall due to truth-telling[30:04]
• Her life as a whole became much easier, especially because it was easy to tell only the truth.
• She remarks that lies and secrets are very hard on the emotions.

Long-term payoff: relationships, work, home, and unbroken peace

Joy-based living as the source of every deep delight and meaning since[30:16]
• Martha credits this decision for every moment of pure delight or deep meaning she has experienced since, noting that there have been many.
Finding wonderful relationships and doing only work she loves[30:24]
• The payoff included wonderful relationships and doing only the work she loves, giving her a constant sense of purpose.
Realization that home is inside her and the world feels like home[30:39]
• She realized that home is inside her, and when she went there, the entire world felt like home.
Never having to leave a state of peace and her wish for listeners[30:50]
• Martha says the ultimate payoff is never having to leave a state of peace, and she explicitly wishes that experience for everyone listening.

Lessons Learned

Actionable insights and wisdom you can apply to your business, career, and personal life.

1

Intentionally seek single, high-leverage decisions that remove entire categories of future choices, rather than repeatedly wrestling with the same small dilemmas.

Reflection Questions:

  • • What recurring decisions in my life could be eliminated by making one clear, overarching rule or commitment?
  • • How might choosing a single constraint (such as "no new projects" or "no travel for a year") free up mental space and energy for what matters most?
  • • What is one decision I could make this month that would automatically simplify dozens of future decisions for me?
2

Simplicity is not about comfort or ease; it is about systematically reducing dependencies and entanglements so you can change more freely and focus more deeply.

Reflection Questions:

  • • Where in my life am I "signed up" for obligations, subscriptions, or roles that feel easy day-to-day but make my life more complex overall?
  • • How would my choices change if I evaluated them by how many new dependencies they create or remove?
  • • What is one dependency or obligation I can intentionally shed in the next 30 days to reclaim flexibility and focus?
3

Clear rules about who your work is for, along with non-negotiable boundaries on budgets, deadlines, and yes/no commitments, dramatically reduce gray areas and decision fatigue.

Reflection Questions:

  • • Who, specifically, is my work or current project really for, and who am I willing to ignore so I can serve them better?
  • • In what situations do I most often waffle instead of giving a firm yes or no, and how does that indecision complicate my life?
  • • What simple rule about budgets, deadlines, or commitments could I adopt this week to make my professional decisions faster and clearer?
4

Deliberately eliminating time sinks-like unnecessary meetings, passive media consumption, or reflexive social media use-forces you onto the hook to get great at the focused work you keep.

Reflection Questions:

  • • Which regular activities (digital or otherwise) consume hours of my week without clearly serving a project or purpose I care about?
  • • How might my output or craft improve if I stopped one low-value activity and redirected that time into a single, meaningful skill or project?
  • • What is one recurring meeting, media habit, or platform I am willing to stop using for the next 30 days as an experiment in focus?
5

Using the felt experience of deep, quiet joy as a compass-even when it leads through loss and disruption-can reorient your life toward health, purpose, truthful relationships, and lasting peace.

Reflection Questions:

  • • When I scan my current relationships, work, and habits, where do I feel that quiet sense of bodily relaxation and freedom Martha describes?
  • • How have I been overriding my own signals of misery or tension out of fear of others' judgment or cultural expectations?
  • • What is one small decision I can make this week to move a bit closer to what genuinely feels like joy, and a bit farther from what consistently feels draining or constricting?

Episode Summary - Notes by Cameron

#837: How to Simplify Your Life in 2026 - New Tips from Derek Sivers, Seth Godin, and Martha Beck
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